Posted by Dinah on November 9, 2010, at 7:34:54
In reply to Re: realistic possibilities, posted by alexandra_k on November 9, 2010, at 6:12:12
> > Posters have the power to ask if they don't understand why.
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> They do. But they don't have the power to compel an answer - even less to compel one that helps them understand.Must they ask Bob? Other posters may have an inkling of the reason.
> Why set the drunk driving detector to detect breath spray?
That's your perception.
> > I didn't leave that scar. You need to take responsibility for your actions.
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> Maybe think of the scar as a physical overflowing / expression / concretization of an inner pain (suffering / torment) that resulted from being isolated from ones friends unexpectedly.And if a poster cut someone else? Would that also be Dr. Bob's fault? Is it different if they cut themselves? It would be a bit disturbing to be at a Babble where Dr. Bob let the fear of self harm guide his decisions. It would give those who self harm a fair amount of power compared to those who don't. Dr. Bob's a mental health practitioner. He understands the boundaries.
There have been times on Babble when I self injured because of my feelings of hurt that came from my interactions with other posters. I remember at least one time that I wrote something about posting with blood on my fingers. To my utter relief, Babble went down as I hit submit. (Or possibly before, I suppose. I'd have no way of knowing it went down before I tried to do something.) I was so shaken with relief. It almost felt like diving intervention. Because to have posted that would have been the ultimate in accusing, I think. "You have caused the blood on my keyboard." And of course, they hadn't. They'd been less than civil and less than kind, but they hadn't caused me to hurt myself. That was my choice.
> Sigh. I'm not sure that is very much better. I prefer:
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> Z sees you as unpredictable in your blocking behavior and themselves as being in the position where unpredictably being isolated from the community for up to one year and branded 'uncivil' outweighs any good that could come from partaking.And yet partaking continues. And often in such a way that increases the chance of a block.
> If we think of 'officials' as 'new posters' and the label of 'uncivil' and a blocking as an 'insult' or 'assault'... Isn't that what a number of posters are doing?
Yes, I think it's possible that a number of posters are trying to protect new Babblers from injury by warning them off Babble. And yet Dr. Bob allows it...
Doesn't sound like the actions of the man you describe.
I miss you too Alex. You know where to find me. Sorry I missed you in chat the other day. Dratted time zones.
((( Alex )))
I do understand, you know. I even sympathize. But I can't see how it's in your best interests to see Dr. Bob in this way, when to my mind, he'd done an awful lot to show his caring for you.
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