Posted by yxibow on June 21, 2009, at 1:30:42
In reply to Re: Rules Recommended Changes question and comment, posted by floatingbridge on June 21, 2009, at 0:32:26
> I've just read through the policies and am wondering what is a PBC. Are they, as one poster above mentioned, no longer used?
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> Following is a quote I found from the Policy section on Civility. I agree with this quote up to a point (and that is allowing people to be 'uncivil'.). What constitutes infraction incurring incivility can be parsed out later. What I like here is the idea of a flexibility and humanity--other posters in other threads above have made this same point. At the same time, I also like the sense of safety and community that a moderated board provides.
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> "Part of learning how to deal with others might just be for people to be uncivil, have that pointed out by Dr. Bob and other members, and then work on appropriate alternate behaviors, and then keep posting. I have seen that happen many times here. There is the possibility for growth in this setting, kind of like group therapy, and I think people should take advantage of that. Sort of like practice here, before going to the "outside world" and dealing with the humans in our family and work lives. I would encourage people to ignore posters who press their buttons."I agree, if I think I am reading right what you are saying that this is a place where one should feel safe, just like in a therapist/doctor's office, but at the same time, some brief introduction to what one might see in the outside world, people are rough and "uncivil", whatever that exactly means is up to the beholder.... in the "outside world".....
..... and it is sort of CBT therapy in a way not to totally "press someones buttons" but yes, to be contrite occasionally because well, some people are just sh*tty out there, to put it mildly....
...I've had people "befriend" me because I've said too much "serious" stuff online....
...I find that the people I chat with outside here online who have or have experienced mental illness themselves are much more likely to be receptive and not "befriend" you whether they are local or long distance buddies.
So I think its a balance.-- Jay
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