Posted by SLS on June 12, 2009, at 5:50:14
In reply to why this site can be so hurtful..., posted by twinleaf on June 11, 2009, at 17:41:54
> I, and very likely others here. expected Bob to be roughly similar to therapists in our real lives whom we have chosen because they are warm, intelligent, well-trained, and able to help us live happier and more fulfilling lives. I think we are discovering, painfully, that Bob does not possess any of these qualities. He is an on-line conundrum- anonymous, unknown, cold, and at times dangerous to our well-being.
Even in the very beginning, Dr. Hysiung remained noticeably distant in his relationship with the members of the Psycho-Babble when the community was quite small. It seemed a bit strange at first, but then I realized that it was a smart thing for him to place some professional boundaries between himself and a group of needy and psychologically vulnerable people. To err on the side of having boundaries that are too high of too thick is preferable to having any kind of influence over someone's psyche.
I think this might be a good point of reference from which to understand the remainder of his behaviors, good and bad.
- Scott
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