Posted by Lou Pilder on June 6, 2009, at 10:42:27
In reply to Re: Case closed? » Dr. Bob, posted by twinleaf on June 6, 2009, at 9:33:19
> I will withdraw the word " vindicative", Do you intend to acknowledge that you blocked me twice, without notice, not for hurting anyone here, but for, in one case, asking for understanding because Happy mentioned that she had been hurt by "an e-mail". I assumed the e-mail was from a friend in her private life, and didn't even understand the reason for the block at all until one of your deputies explained to me a week later that the completely unknown person, presumably a part of Happy's private life and not a reader here, who wrote the e-mail might feel hurt by my mentioning it as a reason to treat Happy with understanding and flexibility. Where in any of this is a hint of an intent on my part to hurt anyone? In the other case, I mentioned, anonymously, a past verbal misuse of the civility guidelines, in which a poster was hurt without any consequences to the person who openly wrote that she had inflicted the hurt on purpose. I was given a three-month block because the poster who had found a way to cause harm while staying within the ciivility guidelines might happen to read my post AND FEEL HURT HERSELF! Once again, there was simply no wish to hurt anyone; that is why I made certain that the poster remained anonymous. I only wanted to point out that I felt that the civility guidelines had become so overly detailed that abuses of this kind were occurring. Even though neither instance involved a wish to hurt anyone, they were instantaneously considered to be exactly that, The blocks, too, were instantaneous, without any chance for clarification. Not that it would have mattered. it would have been impossible for me to apologize for something I didn't do. If you decline to give any validity to what I am saying, you might recall the dozens of posters who protested your actions, They, too, did not understand what I had done wrong, and also felt the blocks were very excessive.
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> There is another part of this. I felt publicly shamed and extremely embarrassed by what had happened to me here. I had been making a lot of progress in my therapy, and my depression and anxiety had almost disappeared. However, following this incident, both flared up again, severely, for a number of weeks. It was serious enough to require adding an additional therapy session each week. My analyst, who had been very interested in the possibilities this site offered to people isolated by emotional problems, was stunned and appalled by the harm which he saw occurring to me.
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> Keeping in mind what this site is, and what its purpose is, how can you possibly justify hurting one of your posters in this manner? I have withdrawn the word "vindictive" at your request; what word would you use to describe your treatment of me?twinleaf,
You wrote,[...not hurting {anyone} here...]
The word {anyone}, has a generally accepted meaning to be {any person at all}. If you could direct me to the thread that the post in question can be seen, by posting a link that is other than the sanction itself that is also of a civil statement there, then I could have the opportunity to see the post with the sanction in question known to me and respond accordingly. Lou
poster:Lou Pilder
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