Posted by twinleaf on June 5, 2009, at 19:04:59
In reply to When it seems right to you... » twinleaf, posted by gobbledygook on June 5, 2009, at 13:03:00
Thank you so, so much Ava. I have actually never received a post as caring, genuine and validating as yours in the six years that I've been here. It means a tremendous amount to me, because the blocks I received were so unexpected, and just seemed to come one after the other, getting longer and longer, And I did feel embarrassed, and really, sort of ashamed in front of everyone, just as you said. My analyst had begun reading in this forum, and found it hard to believe that Bob could act in such a harsh and punitive manner towards me while trying to present himself as being fair and even-handed towards everyone. My analyst was actually one of the therapists who saw a lot of potential benefit here for people who had become isolated by anxiety or depression, so he was especially distressed to see what happened to me. And he also had to stick with me in the long weeks it took for me to recover from the horrible sense of being rejected and punished that I felt. Because I know, now, how emotionally destructive blocks can be, I really want to let that fact be known here. This may or may not cause any changes or improvements, but I have noticed that blocks are used much more carefully now. I think we need a few more changes to make this site really safe and supportive for us all: ideally, no blocks at all, or failing that, short blocks of one week only. These should always be preceded by opportunities for posters to settle their own differences, which I have repeatedly seen them do just beautifully. And taking responsibility for doing it yourself is much more in keeping with the growth we are all working to achieve. There should not be any blocks for bizarre things like not being able to express political or social opinions for fear of making unknown people who hold different opinions feel put down. That just looks plain crazy to outside observers! But just to sum up the most important point, Bob should never misuse the power he has to hurt anyone in this population of people suffering from, and in recovery from, emotional illnesses. For him to do so is completely and totally unacceptable by any standard one can apply. Every time he does it, or threatens to do it, he is going to hear from me.
There's really no way to thank you for such a caring and understanding post, Ava, but THANK YOU!
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