Posted by BayLeaf on March 1, 2009, at 14:02:54
In reply to Re: unavailability, posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2009, at 11:13:00
>I don't have much time right now, but I'm listening. I'm also wondering if I trigger some of you by being absent. Twinleaf mentioned emotionally unfair and abusive families of origin at the beginning of this thread.
>Bob
>Hmm, and maybe in addition to hurt and anger, my unavailability also triggers longing?
>Bob
My "Bob Pet Peeve List" is topped by pointing out that all the anger at him is really transference. None of it as actually justified by his behavior. It's just a marvelous way to deflect responsibility. It's an "anti-I-statement".Of course, there is some transference going on here - I won't point it out, cuz that would be uncivil, and too obvious for folks who have been around a long time....but seriously Bob. Most of the anger directed at you, imo, is not augmented by any form of daddy-ness at Babble. It is actually balanced by your actions.
Bay
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