Posted by rskontos on March 1, 2009, at 12:52:28
In reply to Re: unavailability, posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2009, at 11:13:00
>I welcome healthy discussion here. I agree, I-statements can go a long ways. It's hard to have a good discussion if people feel targeted. Thank you for working to express yourself in a civil way. A balance between being open and holding back helps keep discussions productive. It may be tempting to suspend rules, but that can have its own complications.
You're welcome. But, of course there is a but, I feel that this discussion did not yield a great deal to us, perhaps to you it did. In looking at the archives, it is clear this discussion regarding blocks/math/civility rules has been ongoing for years. So in the best interest of a subject coming up over and over again, how about addressing it. In doing so, realize that somethings you perceive to be offensive to us, may not actual be to us. Your perception of offensive and ours may differ a great deal. We are not you and you are not us.
Dr. Bob, no you don't trigger me when you are gone, what triggers me is posters I value are suddenly gone in a discuss that you deem inappropriate.
You know the old saying, in trying to please everyone you end up pleasing no one. Well, in trying to keep civility rules across the board it is bound to happen that no one is really served. That is now how I feel the civility rules have evolved. They should be protection not an absolute. You said for us to police ourselves and yet you still sweep in and block people often to the detriment of the actual discussion.
>Still, I feel sad that my policies and unavailability may lead some of you to miss out on good advice and help from each other.>
Then help us address this issue once and for all. Some of us will continue to use Babble because it means so much, that is outside of you Dr. Bob.
I think we all do a good job of supporting each other. Perhaps in this case, to just watch and see if someone reported that this poster had indeed made them feel bad or insulted might be one suggestion. You made the rule for us to support and police ourselves yet I don't see how we are allowed to do just that.
So in MHO,
Another new beginning was derailed.
rsk
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