Posted by seldomseen on December 21, 2008, at 12:43:34
In reply to an imbalance..., posted by twinleaf on December 21, 2008, at 11:36:49
"Looking back at these exchanges, I think the fact that Partly Cloudy trusted the boards enough to express in such a real way how difficult a time she was having as she was beginning to uncover memories of childhood abuse gives all of us here an implicit mandate to help her as she goes through all of the pain involved in working through the suffering of her past."
*** I hear what you are saying, however, I do not think there is an implicit mandate to help. I come to babble for support, and to give support as I am able and as I choose. IMO the only mandate that any babbler has is to be civil.***
"It was distressing to learn that a poster had caused further pain in a private email."
***If it was a babblemail, then it is subject to the same civility guidelines as if it were a post. If it was an email that was not babble affiliated, then it is not under the protection of the babble rules. Also, the content of such emails shouldn't be revealed unless both parties agree.***
"When Racer, as Deputy, reminded her not to make remarks which could lead others to feel put down, the reminder, while correct, did not take into context those two important things- PC's present emotional struggles, which she has courageously shared with us all, and the fact that another Babbler had apparently caused her distress. If the PCB had contained an acknowledgement of these two important factors, it would have come across as empathic and caring-as well as politically correct."
***Well, we've certainly tinkered with the wording of PBS and PBCs in the past. Perhaps this is something that should be re-visited. I think babble should always be open to ways to potentially mitigate hurt or misunderstanding.***
"I can't help but notice that this is the second time in recent days that a poster who has turned to Babble in times of severe emotional distress has felt hurt by the way the guidelines were applied."
***It's always upsetting (at least to me) when someone feels hurt on babble for any reason. I've certainly read enough deputies' responses to this hurt to know that the guidelines are not applied with the intent to hurt.
I mean it's not like their thinking "wow that seldomseen is really down and acting up, let's get her!"
I've been on this site for many many years now. and it is just outside of any understanding I have of it to think that way.***Seldom
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