Posted by Dr. Bob on April 23, 2008, at 2:53:33
In reply to Re: an interesting dynamic » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on April 21, 2008, at 12:14:15
> I think its more for me bout old tapes in my head. Bout parent thats not available, that makes kid feel abandoneded and afraid. Old stuff. No longer valid, but stupidly still there.
> One never knows if parent is gonna be good or bad at any given moment. Confusion.
> Too hard to tolerate.
> Thats my analogy for me.
> Deputies are just like older siblings to me, they try and help as best they can, they not parents.
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> MThanks for sharing that, it's a great example of how old tapes can be triggered by a current situation.
To continue with your analogy, could other siblings help, too?
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> we're reading the ads that you sell space for here, isn't that helpful for you, Bob?
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> i'm going for discussion here, not discension. want to be very clear about that up front.
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> my feeling is the followers are just that......some just aren't here for pitching in more than they can.
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> putting oneself out front can be disastrous for many.
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> pat
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> p.s. the people who voiced their fear, anger and confusion during the last occurence were doing the best that they could do then.I think discussion, constructive criticism, and reading ads are all examples of good followership. Anything else?
How could putting oneself out front be disastrous?
None of us should be expected to do more than we can. But it might help if we just did things differently.
Bob
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