Posted by muffled on April 21, 2008, at 11:57:57
In reply to Re: an interesting dynamic, posted by Dr. Bob on April 21, 2008, at 11:18:28
I think its more for me bout old tapes in my head. Bout parent thats not available, that makes kid feel abandoneded and afraid. Old stuff. No longer valid, but stupidly still there.
But I can feel abandoned and feel its not safe, cuz 'parent' is unreliable and not a source of safety, but a source of fear.
Therefore, I leave the 'home' cuz I am afraid. There is not safety there.
The parent from time to time and can be nice, or parent can be unfeeling and hurt other siblings too. One never knows.
One never knows if parent is gonna be good or bad at any given moment. Confusion.
Too hard to tolerate.
Can't stand to see siblings hurt.
Thats my analogy for me.
Proly dumb, but best as I can do.
Deputies are just like older siblings to me, they try and help as best they can, they not parents.
Bob is an unreliable parent to this poster whose chose to be vulnerable here. This poster never know if he gonna hurt her or others. This poster not understand at all, and so is scared. This poster never know who parent is gonna be, good or bad? Present, or off in they own head, therefore 'away'.
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