Posted by fayeroe on April 21, 2008, at 12:14:15
In reply to Re: an interesting dynamic, posted by Dr. Bob on April 21, 2008, at 11:18:28
> > > I wonder if a perception of me as not being open to help -- or as myself having skills, but not helping -- may have contributed.
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> > No, I don't think that was playing a role. When you were able to start posting again, it was clear how much you wanted board members to join you in finding good solutions.
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> When I started posting again, yes, but perhaps not when I wasn't?
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> > I just assumed that the deputies would jump in to help- perhaps having discussions with one another to develop the broadest and most helpful strategies to support and calm people. ... It would be great if the deputies were prepared to offer broad-based, impartial leadership when it is needed.
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> Maybe deputies could have responded differently, and maybe posters could have, too. Leadership is important, and so is followership.
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> Bobfollowers with mental health issues frequently find leadership difficult at best. setting up a website for the people here carries responsibilities that you chose for yourself. leadership, understanding, safety and continuity. we're reading the ads that you sell space for here, isn't that helpful for you, Bob?
i'm going for discussion here, not discension. want to be very clear about that up front.
leadership is learned by example. if a person isn't taught that as a child, it's pretty hard to learn how to embrace it as a grownup.
my feeling is the followers are just that......some just aren't here for pitching in more than they can. as muffled put it so well, safety is very important.
putting oneself out front can be disastrous for many.
pat
p.s. the people who voiced their fear, anger and confusion during the last occurence were doing the best that they could do then.
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