Posted by greywolf on May 10, 2007, at 10:45:26
In reply to Re: Ok to be uncivil to Dr. Bob? » greywolf, posted by Dinah on May 10, 2007, at 10:21:49
Dinah,
I respect and appreciate the deputies for the time and care they invest in administering a site that is undoubtedly more difficult to manage than most others. I can also understand the frustration generated when you're in a situation where everyone wants to do the right thing, but the support you need might not be as timely as some would like it to be.
But I think it was Madeleine who asked in this thread what one is to do in such a situation. My opinion is that there is plenty of freedom to raise critical issues and needs, but that civility need not be thrown out the window in the process.
Personally, I could not care less if action was not taken against gg because I understand at least part of her frustration. However, it does seem obvious to me that not enforcing the civility rules in this situation may create frustration for others, especially when an essential premise of the site's civility rules is understanding not only the plain message of your statements, but also the potential consequences of the way your message is conveyed to sensitive recipients (e.g., "triggers").
In my view, civility requires not only a concern for targeted recipients of your message, but also for all of those who may view or participate in the discourse. If this discussion is allowed to become personally derogatory simply because Dr. Bob is involved, how long will it be until other posters decide to start throwing adjectives at him, too? And when that peculiar type of incivility expands, doesn't it detract from the positive nature of the overall experience here?
All I'm saying is that the heartfelt criticisms of Dr. Bob's administration of this site could have been stated without the personal attacks, and that the deputies could have addressed the personal attacks without undermining the main message.
In any event, I still appreciate all of the deputies' efforts to make this a quality site.
Greywolf
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