Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2007, at 11:08:49
In reply to perhaps, more importantly -, posted by one woman cine on May 10, 2007, at 11:00:11
Clearly civility does not equal truth.
I am fat. That is truth.
Context would matter a lot. Were my doctor to say that I'm over my weight limit, and it would do my health good to weigh less, that would be civil even if he put it rather strongly. If my husband were to say he loves me and wants me to be with him for a long time and would like me to exercise and watch what I eat, that would be loving. If a friend told me I shouldn't wear that dress because it pointed out how fat I was, that wouldn't be terribly civil, although likely true. If someone walked up to me out of the blue and told I was fat and disgusting, that would be completely uncivil. No matter how much truth is involved.
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