Posted by gardenergirl on May 10, 2007, at 9:58:05
In reply to Re: Ok to be uncivil to Dr. Bob? » fayeroe, posted by greywolf on May 10, 2007, at 8:54:39
If my post were about anyone else here and in most cases beyond, it certainly would be regarded as uncivil. If I were an active deputy reading it about anyone here or beyond, I'd certainly PBC the [my] post. There is significant past prececent, however, for Dr. Bob allowing a great deal of criticism towards him. If I were an active deputy reading the post about Dr. Bob, I would leave it to him to address. A search of the archives would turn up several such instances. To the best of my knowledge, any administrative action I've taken towards posts critical of Dr. Bob has been when there is something else about the post that's uncivil, i.e. a poster posting while blocked, vulgar language unasterisked, or criticisms of others besides Dr. Bob. I'm sure someone could fine an exception. There are always exceptions and inconsistencies. But that has been my general rule of thumb regarding posts critical of Dr. Bob. Of course the other deputies may have other standards by which they make these decisions.
I certainly don't expect to be treated any differently by Dr. Bob because I am a deputy, though on leave at the moment. When I wrote the post, I was fully aware that there may be consequences, and I accepted that possibility when deciding to write how and what I did. That was my conscious decision. I have to say I was surprised by how hard I had to work to NOT use I-statements. So my post was not without thought. It was not written in the heat of some moment.
I realize it might have been startling to see a post like that from me given my role here. As a deputy, I felt quite constrained at times by the need for, I don't know, decorum and discretion. As just me, I feel liberated from those constraints, though again, I must accept any consequences that may come from posting more freely.
Saying what I did felt like sharing a long held, "it would be bad to tell" secret. It would not be far from the mark to say it had therapeutic value for me to write that, though there are other reasons I wanted to say what I did.
I never expected my post to generate so many comments. I'd hate to see conflict among community members flare up because of my statements, though I realize I have no control over that.
I suppose that about covers it for me.
gg
PS to the person who asked me how I know I would not escalate behavior out of anger about a consequence (paraphrasing heavily): I know because I don't care. I can't imagine escalating anger, because I don't really give a hoot about any consequence. A PBC, a block, some other? Whatever happens happens, and I can't imagine it changing my not giving a hoot at this point. Not giving a hoot is a pretty good feeling, at least in this case. There's always the chance I could be wrong about myself, of course.
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