Posted by AdaGrace on September 21, 2005, at 20:20:27
In reply to Didn't JYL Say Things Many of Us Do?, posted by AdaGrace on September 21, 2005, at 8:46:18
Well, it would seem that I was moved without a little 'note' to tell me so.
I just wanted to say that I found my original post interesting, yet disturbing. And right now I am drunk. Whereas this morning, when I was ranting, I wasn't drunk. Go figure.
And since I didn't click the little thingy about including the original post that I am following up to, I will just have to go by memory.....
the word "har" or "hor" however in the world I spelled it, was meant to be "car".
So be it.
It is as before, my point is easily lost due to specific notations to certain words or sentences in my post. I still feel the same way.
Of course, noone directly noted the fact that I repeatedly said that there should be rules, and that I believed in them. But apparently, my point got misunderstood. The point, which I will restate, is this, doesn't it come just a little too quick to issue a PBC or a Block before the issue gets worked out.
We get our spankin, we come back contrite, and all is better and we get ice-cream. Isn't that just a tad superficial?
How many of you believe that being blocked really teaches someone a lesson?
I agree, sometimes it needs to happen, but other times, it just seems to isolate the individual and make things worse. Take me for instance. I am seriously pissed that I was blocked. I was misunderstood, and wasn't given the chance to rephrase, or when I did, it was misunderstood again, anyway I had no clue gardenergirl was a deputy. So when that PBC came, I thought, Okay, I'll try again. But I guess I didn't explain myself well enough. I guess what I said was offensive to some, and I seriously did not mean it that way, but it doesn't matter, because now I feel as if I am deemed a welfare recipient hater, and of course I am not. So I feel put down myself. But I'll deal with it without tattling to the teacher or sitting back smiling while someone gets their punishment. But the thing is, the thread, because I was blocked, was not able to work itself out.
So, I stated my point again, and I sit here and realize that there is no "win" in an arguement like this. I have found that for the most part people are supportive on this site, and I have made some very good friends. But when it comes to discussing something other than how d*mn depressed I am, I just don't seem to do that well. It's as if there is an underlying theme here that I should follow where I just simply don't have in depth conversations because someone is bound to take it wrong and get their feelings hurt. I could say "blue" and someone would find that offensive. It's as if this site tries to make the posters feel all warm and fuzzy and perhaps that gives us all a false sense of security. I still think that we as human beings should be aware that there are things out there in this world that aren't good. There are people who might one day say something mean to us. There are situations in which we might be uncomfortable. We need to learn to deal with that on our own. At least I think I do. This isn't kindergarden. This isn't fantasy land, and this isn't the movies. People are people. People make mistakes. People hurt other people and as a result people get hurt feelings. I've got book loads of hurt feelings. But you know what? I allow those hurt feeling inside. I don't block them very well. Yet I know that it is human nature to sometimes hurt or be hurt. I also realize that given time, hurt feelings can lessen. I know, I know, I'm generalizing, and I am sitting here with a horific broken heart that I can't seem to get over, so what the h*ll do I think I am talking about. Nevermind.
We all have the same britches to get glad in that we got mad in. Twas what my Mama always said.I guess I should just talk about sewing and cooking and then things won't be so upseting. No thanks on that.
AdaGrace
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