Posted by AdaGrace on September 21, 2005, at 8:46:18 [reposted on September 21, 2005, at 15:44:32 | original URL]
Of course I will begin by "I don't mean to be uncivil or offensive to others".
But really, didn't jyl just speak out and say something without thinking and haven't we all done that? Posting drunk, well that's fine and good, I've done that many times. I'm not condoning her either way, but I'll tell you something, we all have sensitive areas in which we can become offended by another's actions whether it be deemed uncivil by others or not. I have had my feelings hurt more than once on here and it went unnoticed, I got over it. As in life. Sh*t happens, people are mean, rude, insensitive, and say things that they either don't mean or don't intend to be harful. Sometimes they mean to be that way, and sometimes they don't.
Can any one of us say that we have never at some point in out life said something to or about someone that was hurtful? Did we all get our hands spanked? If anyone answered NO to that question they are more perfect than me and of course will redeem their rewards in the afterlife much quicker than I.
Civility schmillity. Is that what the world is in reality?
It's like road rage, I've had a few. I'm not talking about when soemthing horrible happens and someone shoots someone else, but mild everyday road rage where a hor gets honked at the stoplight because the car in front doesn't go forward fast enough, or the bird gets flipped when another car cuts you off on the freeway. Woudln't it be lovely if everyone on the streets and highways were perfect little gentlemen and ladies and always said thank you and please and of course NEVER pulled out in from of another car? Yeah right.
SNAP OUT OF IT PEOPLE!! This is the real world. There are consequences for actions that harm others, of course there are, and noone wants to be told something negative about themselves or be talked to in a negative tone. But let's face it, that's life. Doesn't make it right, but it's life.
Suport, that's what this site is all about isn't it. But the fact remains that it is open to the public in a matter of speaking. We all have good days and bad days and as a result of that, we sometimes say or do things that might be considered innapropriate. Is it being supportive to not try to figure out the problem and try to resolve it, but rather instead issue a PBC or a block? Gives that person time to cool off certainly, but a spankin is a spankin. Noone likes them, and there are serious discussions out there regarding corporal punishment.
I said something about welfare recipients (a generalized statement) and was blocked, and of course my thread which strayed from it's original theme died a quick death and as a result, I never got the chance to appologize appropriately because it was moved to freakin politics where it ran it's course regarding things other than what I was trying to say. Right now there is a post on Writing in which someone said they "dread my posts" (a very specific post directed towards me). Well Wahhhhh, that hurts my feelings. But I don't need a mommy stepping in and telling that person to go sit in the corner. I got over it, and realized after reading that particular post exactly what the poster was saying and understood it was not negatively driven.
Good grief, this just seems to be overly done. I completely agree that there has to be a line and when posts become threatening or extreemly offensive in language then things need to be cut off. But otherwise they might just work themselves out.
Of course this will get moved to admin, go for it, I don't care. I have seriously grown tired of this site. It's not helping me, and I am so sick of the "please be civil" malarky. How about we just all grow up and grow thinker skins.
AdaGrace
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