Posted by alexandra_k on September 21, 2005, at 17:20:52
In reply to Didn't JYL Say Things Many of Us Do?, posted by AdaGrace on September 21, 2005, at 8:46:18
Hurting people often lash out at others.
That is true enough.
The trouble comes when A is hurt and lashes out at B and then B is hurt and lashes out at A and then other people get all protective and start lashing out too and before you know it things have degenerated rather.The rule here is fairly simple (in the majority of cases) and it is supposed to stop the above process at the first step.
Yeah, nobody is perfect.
But there are still consequences for infractions.
And the consequences DO have an affect on our future behaviour too.If there weren't consequences for Jyl's post then there would be an implicit message that it is acceptable to post the things she did about other posters here.
But that is not okay.
And if that sort of behaviour was acceptable here then I would leave.
Because the civility rules help keep me safe from other people lashing out at me.
I think that people here tend to be fairly sympathetic when people are hurting.
But it is hard to sympathise with someone when they are lashing out.
Its about learning to express ones hurt appropriately in a way that doesn't result in hurting another.
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