Posted by crushedout on November 5, 2004, at 15:39:25
In reply to Re: I agree with Sad Sara., posted by Sad Sara on November 5, 2004, at 15:24:32
the rule doesn't say you have to *intend* to accuse or put someone down -- i think it says something like "could lead" others to *feel* put down. it's actually a rather subjective standard.
saying "i think you are missing my point" would make me feel insulted, that i was stupid or not careful or whatever. i'm not dr. bob and dr. bob did not pbc the guy for this, but i personally would be offended by the post if i were mandinka. whether or not he deserves a pbc as a technical matter is purely a question for dr. bob. if i were running the site, i obviously would have given him one.
but you shouldn't structure what you do based on my opinions, unless your concern is being offensive to *me*. if that is your concern, i suggest not telling me i'm missing your point. i think there are much more diplomatic ways to get that same idea across. (e.g., "maybe i didn't make clear in my last post, but my point is...." some people may think this sounds like b.s., but phrasing stuff like that can make a big difference to recipients of messages. i'm actually not the most diplomatic person on these boards so i bet other people could explain this a lot better. :)
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