Posted by shar on October 28, 2003, at 20:03:16
In reply to My email to Bob 10:40pm PST, posted by galkeepinon on October 28, 2003, at 0:45:43
> I know that a poster a while back committed suicide, and I would hate that to happen again.
>Gal,
A while back Sar committed suicide. She had posted about previous attempts, but for the board she added a mix of humor, insight, and support. In my opinion, she couldn't take into her heart that people really cared about her.She was from the same town I live in, which made it just more poignant for me.
When anybody indicates they are in enough pain to end their life, I learned from Sar, there is not enough one can do to try to get them another day, another week of life, because things CAN change.
Perhaps your earlier posts (as one who had supposedly committed suicide) touched something in many of us that have felt that all too often. Or, maybe caused grief at the loss of so much promise. Like Sar, who had so much promise. And, then to find out it wasn't real......well, it's like something you love being taken away, and then..oops, not really. Like being told your dog or cat had been killed, and finding out it wasn't true. (I am a real animal lover, so that example is meaningful to me, but I don't know if it is to you.)
At any rate, I think I can say with some degree of certainty that people here are doing the best they can. Some can be your friend again, some cannot. Those are just facts of life when something as dear as life is toyed with. I would recommend that you go with those who CAN be your friends.
Your posts as Gal (and I like the name you chose), seem to have been supportive of others, and participative in the board in general. If supporting others is what you're here for, you will be appreciated. If you are here for absolution, you will probably be disappointed, because life is so precious to some that we/they cannot just dismiss previous events.
I guess the final question is: what is your goal? This forum is for support (of others, mainly) and you can count on SOME support, but maybe not all you'd like to have.
I don't think you need to leave. I think if you can stay and be a supportive participant, and/or talk about your own personal issues (without focusing on previous events) you will be accepted enough by some to make staying worthwhile.
If you don't feel accepted ENOUGH to continue, there are other boards to post on. But, that's a choice you have to make, not us. To me, Gal has seemed a positive influence, and I have no desire that you leave.
I do, however, regret what was done before. But, that wasn't Gal, that was someone else, and the way posters change names around here.......well, that's another topic altogether, eh?
Shar
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