Posted by Zo on August 8, 2003, at 1:54:44
In reply to Re: Bob, please consider a PBC for Larry » Zo, posted by Simcha on August 8, 2003, at 1:19:21
That is sooo cool. Of course unconditonal regard works - with children. But Aspergers adult males can and do give more than offense, their standards and behaviors are abusive, and the results are the same on their wives, partners, children. It's a dilemma. I'm moderating a group of recovering partners of Aspergers, mostly women. It's hugely pathological, the havoc these guys can wreak on the sanity,health and well-being of those around them, particularly if they are the wage-earner. Without theory of mind, there's pretty much no reason to "share the wages." And the tragic thing, at which you also gotta laugh, is the way they declare the rules, perservate over them, and of course are invariably wrong.Then you come across an AS guy with a big heart - it's all so mysterious. The DSM has got to be the biggest pile of steaming. . ..
I have great faith in the plasticity of the human brain and in the ability of these children to learn to connect and to take pleasure in connecting - you're on the frontline, kid, you go!
Love,
zo
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