Posted by Dr. Bob on August 9, 2003, at 0:19:01
In reply to Re: Bob, please consider a PBC for Larry, posted by Zo on August 8, 2003, at 1:54:44
> It is not the scrupulosity with which you justify your own words that troubles me - and I do not mean to single you out, I merely address you both because you are here - and represent a position, a way of thinking, that contributes to many of the misunderstandings I've seen here.
If you don't mean to single someone out, then don't single them out.
> Instead of turning *towards* your fellow board member who is upset with you, to mend things with them - you turn to your own words, reread them, find nothing wrong - and put the other person, who has told you of their feelings, at an further remove.
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> when you comb over your post, instead of really listening to the *person* and their complaints, it unfortunately broadcasts a message I'm not sure you intend.
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> the analytical type ... withdraws even more from the person who wanted and needed his presence.
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> Ame, Lar, it gives offense to justify yourself
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> to listen is to demonstrate caring and respect. That's what is important. Not that your post be impeccable and well-defended.> Aspergers adult males can and do give more than offense, their standards and behaviors are abusive, and the results are the same on their wives, partners, children.
Please be sensitive to the feelings of others and don't jump to conclusions about them or post anything that could lead them to feel accused or put down. The last time you were blocked, it was for 8 weeks, so this time, it's for 16. Best wishes,
Bob
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