Posted by willow on February 2, 2001, at 22:30:39
In reply to Re: One sided ..., posted by Dr. Bob on February 1, 2001, at 23:48:14
"IMO, it's charitable for it only to be partly."
I don't understand this. What does IMO stand for? Perhaps this will help clarify it for me.
"Why would it be counterproductive to everyone's growth?"
Learning acceptance is a good trait to have. It is easy to say, "We agree to disagree!" but so much more rewarding to actually feel it.
As a child I got a dislike for cheese and peanut butter. I can recall the whole experience in both instances. I still have both in my house. Now I even eat cheese when it's in a recipe or sandwich, but anything with a nutty taste I still don't like.
People are the same. Sometimes on first meeting we're so turned off that any reminder upsets us. (The peanut butter stuck to the roof of my mouth.) Or a bad encounter can sour a whole relationship for awhile. (I thought I was getting a carrot, but instead it was a chunk of cheese.) But we still have to learn to tolerate them, we can't expect them to drop dead because we don't like their views or personality. With time we may begin to learn to enjoy their company or just acceptance.
An accepting society results in positive growth. I'm not so polyanna as to believe that there should be no conflict. Conflict can also lead to growth too!
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