Posted by garnet71 on March 21, 2009, at 12:11:59
In reply to Re: Depression as a brain homeostatic reset, posted by bleauberry on March 21, 2009, at 11:44:59
That's interesting too, Bleauberry. Also with Buddhism, desire/want is the source of all pain and suffering. This, for me anyway, could apply to such things outside of the material world.
It could pertain to concepts like the yearning for a normal/non-abusive childhood, a nuturing parent or spouse, to loathe the memory of a traumatic experience...instead of being thankful for what you have, harnessing the positive, and moving on. Total acceptance and even love of past situations.
My Muslim friend told me that one Islamic law dictates that you don't disrespect or be unthankful about your parents. He told me you accept it as it is, that it could always be worse, and you should appreciate your parents for bringing you into the world no matter what. I have tried to adopt this philosophy but still have trouble with it.
A Catholic friend, my boss who was there the day my father died and I got on a plane, noticed I barely shed a tear...maybe I had a look of calmness, serenity, releif, when my father passed away when I was 23. He told me you don't have to love someone for 'who' they are. Unconditionally, I suppose, is what he meant.
I always look back and feel sorry for my father, and empathisize with him, but didn't feel much when I found out he died. In fact, I was up all night the evening before he died with pain and numbness in my arms, couldn't sleep all night, which was not normal for me at the time. And when it was time to leave the hotel for work, I paused, sat on the bed with the door key in my hand, and just sat there for a few minutes all dressed and ready to go. Sat there and stared at the wall for no reason other than a feeling of weirdness. Moments later, my sister called with the news.
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