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Posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
When your parents let your boyfriend/girlfriend come to your house?
Posted by Phillipa on June 6, 2006, at 22:43:11
In reply to How old were you, posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
To my house eight grade around l4? Love Phillipa
Posted by ClearSkies on June 7, 2006, at 8:23:06
In reply to How old were you, posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
No friends came to my house until I was 17, and that's because my folks didn't give a flying hoot one way or another. Before that time I wouldn't invite anyone over because I was too embarassed by the possiblity of seeing my dad passed out on the couch. By the time I was 17 I didn't care who knew...
Posted by llrrrpp on June 7, 2006, at 8:27:16
In reply to How old were you, posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
9th grade b/f came to dinner one night.
21 yrs old b/f came for overnight.
my parents were pretty cool about both.
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 7, 2006, at 10:37:28
In reply to How old were you, posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
> When your parents let your boyfriend/girlfriend come to your house?
"Let" doesn't apply to me, because it never happened until after I moved out. 28? Twenty something.
Lar
Posted by Poet on June 7, 2006, at 10:57:39
In reply to How old were you, posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
No pity, please, but by the time I actually had a "boyfriend" I was 20. I had zero dates in high school. Yeah, that did a lot for the old self-esteem.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on June 7, 2006, at 12:43:52
In reply to Re: How old were you » lynn971, posted by Larry Hoover on June 7, 2006, at 10:37:28
Lar how old when you started to date? Love Phillipa
Posted by curtm on June 7, 2006, at 12:55:49
In reply to Re: How old were you, posted by Poet on June 7, 2006, at 10:57:39
If I had girlfriends, I am sure I could have had them over whenever I wanted. The girls never much went for me, though. I tried though. I guess I wasn't hip. I could call this a trigger, but it doesnt matter that much. Like I didn't matter that much to the girls. It is what it is. I felt left out as an adolescent. My friends, who became less of friends, had girlfriends.
Don't worry, I made up for it when I went out on my own...
Posted by lynn971 on June 7, 2006, at 14:30:39
In reply to Re: How old were you » Poet, posted by curtm on June 7, 2006, at 12:55:49
My mom let my sister have her boyfriend over when she was in 8th grade. She never let me have my boyfriend over until I was in 11th grade. They let my sister do pretty much what she wanted. Now that I am grown all of my relatives tell me how they were always so sorry for me because my mom and dad favored my sister and it was evident.
My daughter is in 8th grade. She has a boyfriend. I dont mind if he comes over because I love him. He was my student. I just do not want to be too loose with my daughter.
Peace,
Lynn
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 7, 2006, at 14:55:06
In reply to Re: How old were you » Larry Hoover, posted by Phillipa on June 7, 2006, at 12:43:52
> Lar how old when you started to date? Love Phillipa
I really don't know that I ever dated.
Lar
Posted by Kath on June 7, 2006, at 15:46:32
In reply to How old were you, posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
Never had one & I was 24 when I moved out. How weird is THAT!!??
Kath
> When your parents let your boyfriend/girlfriend come to your house?
Posted by Tamar on June 7, 2006, at 16:02:30
In reply to How old were you, posted by lynn971 on June 6, 2006, at 22:20:42
> When your parents let your boyfriend/girlfriend come to your house?
I was 14. But there was no staying over! I wasn't allowed to have a man in my room until I was 21, and only then because it was a gay friend who had come to visit me and we just wanted to stay up all night chatting in bed. My dad muttered quite a lot but agreed in the end, and after that I was allowed to let boyfriends sleep in my room (not that it was ever discussed; I just took advantage of the precedent).
But if they were trying to prevent me from having sex in my room, they were too late. My first sexual experience was in my room, when I was 12, with a female friend.
Posted by TexasChic on June 7, 2006, at 18:23:09
In reply to Re: How old were you, posted by Tamar on June 7, 2006, at 16:02:30
I've never been on a date or really had a boyfriend at all (I've made out with a TON of guys, but that's a totally different story). I was just so screwed up and down on myself for so long. I'm ready now, but at 36 I feel like a newbie, and its weird. I think that's why I'm attracted to younger men. I feel like I'm on a more even ground with them. Although, it makes sense that someone with more experience might make it easier too. I'm just ready to find out! I've got to get out and meet some men!
As for the original question, I never had anybody over, mostly out of embarassment. Having a guy over would have been unthinkable. I knew my family wasn't normal, plus my parents had a way of making it hard to ever feel any pride about anything we had. I can't really explain it very well. There was an undercurrent to be meek and a feeling that we were less than other people. I guess that's something to delve into in therapy.
-T
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