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Posted by Michael83 on January 18, 2008, at 12:36:44
I've tried really hard to be humble about other people's opinions lately.
I've posted about this before, sometimes I'm afraid of disaster type scenarios and "end of world" type dangers.
Well I was reading on a forum and someone mentioned something about "Planet X" and a few other possible end of world scenarios that could happen in 2012/13. 5 years ago I would have probably laughed and said whoever believes in such nonsense is an idiot. But I feel like I've been shrunk down to such a humble mental state I cannot refute anything remotely questionable/unknown. I feel guilty everytime I do. =(
I'm never one to believe in nonsense like that, but I couldn't help being scared anyway.
Maybe I need to be a little more arrogant in the face of extreme ignorance. Is that so wrong?
Posted by MissK on January 18, 2008, at 13:46:26
In reply to Sometimes I miss being arrogant., posted by Michael83 on January 18, 2008, at 12:36:44
>Maybe I need to be a little more arrogant in the face of extreme ignorance. Is that so wrong?
I would think education is what is called for in the face of ignorance.
Posted by Kath on January 18, 2008, at 14:27:59
In reply to Sometimes I miss being arrogant., posted by Michael83 on January 18, 2008, at 12:36:44
I think the important thing might be to know what is 'true & real' for us, realize that may be different from what is true & real for others, & be comfortable with being in our own truth, while letting others be in their truth.
Kath
Posted by MissK on January 18, 2008, at 22:06:28
In reply to Sometimes I miss being arrogant., posted by Michael83 on January 18, 2008, at 12:36:44
...just wanted to add education or awareness - they are not always the same thing.
Posted by Phillipa on January 19, 2008, at 0:27:48
In reply to Re: Sometimes I miss being arrogant. » Michael83, posted by MissK on January 18, 2008, at 22:06:28
Michal never asked before and don't want to be nosey do you take any meds? If not maybe some theraphy to get over your fears? Why do you feel you have them . I know I have fears too. Love Phillipa
Posted by Sigismund on January 19, 2008, at 0:41:26
In reply to Sometimes I miss being arrogant., posted by Michael83 on January 18, 2008, at 12:36:44
Cultural differences are interesting.
I actually saw a photo of a ball sack being attached to a car in the USA in a Japanese newspaper.
This wouldn't be offensive or strange enough to the Australian sensibility to make it into a newspaper there.
I can't say for sure that it was offensive to me, but being across the other side of the planet made it easier to bear.
Posted by Dinah on January 19, 2008, at 10:00:42
In reply to Sometimes I miss being arrogant., posted by Michael83 on January 18, 2008, at 12:36:44
Maybe the key isn't accepting as truth everything that people say, but rather separating the sayer from the words said.
Someone could be a brain surgeon and believe some highly improbable doomsday scenario. It's not *all* of who they are.
Maybe the key to not being arrogant isn't so much accepting people's choices as something you're ok with, but not globally condemning a person for some of their choices.
Life is full of contradictions. Accepting those contradictions and keeping an open mind about the greater part of something in face of a small part of the same thing opens your world to all sorts of fascinating possibilities.
Posted by Michael83 on January 19, 2008, at 17:08:52
In reply to Re: Sometimes I miss being arrogant., posted by Phillipa on January 19, 2008, at 0:27:48
Phillipa, I do not take meds and I have never seen anyone about my anxiety. I'm not sure if they could help.
I guess I always feel like I'm a very unlucky person in some ways (but I've been very lucky in other ways). So naturally I feel like everytime something good happens to me, something bad will happen back. In reality this is usually the case for me. I mean it's remarkable how a really bad thing will happen right after a good thing.
I'm gaining some traction in my life and I feel like with my luck, if I got rich tomorrow or found the girl of my dreams, the world would probably end and I would never get to enjoy it. I suspect that is the root of my fears. Many people think that somethign bad will happen to them if something good does, but I seem to take the attitude more seriously than most, to the point where it causes me great anxiety.
Posted by Michael83 on January 19, 2008, at 17:13:10
In reply to Re: Sometimes I miss being arrogant. » Michael83, posted by Dinah on January 19, 2008, at 10:00:42
>>>>Maybe the key to not being arrogant isn't so much accepting people's choices as something you're ok with, but not globally condemning a person for some of their choices.
That is true, but don't you have to laugh it off sometimes when you hear something ridiculous? That's what most people do.
When you hear about goofy people who wear tin foil hats or talking about UFOs, etc, most people don't say "I respect their opinion, but disagree," they say, "you're a nutcase." It's a natural reaction.
It may be rude, but I think it's a natural human reaction that is psychologically beneficial. I've lost that reaction though.
Posted by Dinah on January 19, 2008, at 17:37:23
In reply to Re: Sometimes I miss being arrogant. » Dinah, posted by Michael83 on January 19, 2008, at 17:13:10
I guess I'm not most people. :) (Now who's being arrogant? lol.)
Maybe it's because my mother believes the most unlikely scenarios. And yes, I might mock her myself, because she's my mother. But I also know she has many fine qualities and knows a lot about things not connected to those interests.
I wouldn't globally call her an idiot or nutcase. Ok, I might, but only because I'm her daughter and it's sort of my job. I certainly wouldn't discount the rest of her when I'm being fair to her.
Posted by Phillipa on January 19, 2008, at 18:43:14
In reply to Re: Sometimes I miss being arrogant. » Phillipa, posted by Michael83 on January 19, 2008, at 17:08:52
Michael I do understand. Do you think talking about your fears is helping you? I think it's a good thing to talk about them. Phillipa not taking it lightly
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on January 20, 2008, at 1:19:20
In reply to Re: Sometimes I miss being arrogant. » Dinah, posted by Michael83 on January 19, 2008, at 17:13:10
> >>>>Maybe the key to not being arrogant isn't so much accepting people's choices as something you're ok with, but not globally condemning a person for some of their choices.
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> That is true, but don't you have to laugh it off sometimes when you hear something ridiculous? That's what most people do.
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> When you hear about goofy people who wear tin foil hats or talking about UFOs, etc, most people don't say "I respect their opinion, but disagree," they say, "you're a nutcase." It's a natural reaction.
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> It may be rude, but I think it's a natural human reaction that is psychologically beneficial. I've lost that reaction though.
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>I don't think it's a natural human reaction, IMHO. Maybe that is because I am Canadian. I dunno. I believe in the "live and let live" philosophy, and that has saved me from many headaches. Of course I have my own opinions, but I usually try to be as diplomatic as possible. That is the way I was raised, and think that the world is often sadly lacking in that quality. Being humble...accepting humility.
Jay
Posted by Michael83 on January 21, 2008, at 19:19:56
In reply to Re: Sometimes I miss being arrogant. » Michael83, posted by Phillipa on January 19, 2008, at 18:43:14
It does help a lot Phillipa. But only for a while.
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