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Posted by alexandra_k on December 20, 2004, at 16:17:24
In celebration of having gotten my applications in on time (well... come on NZ Post!!!) I decided to read a novel. Found this quote:
'This has been her problem all her life: picturing other people's responses. She's too good at it. She can picture the response of anyone - other people's reactions, their emotions, their criticisms, their demands - but somehow they don't reciprocate. Maybe they can't. Maybe they lack the gift, if it is one.'
Margaret Atwood "The Robber Bride" p.55
I know it isn't foolproof. I know heaps of trouble can come from thinking one knows what others will do without giving them a chance... But anyway, is it is gift - or a curse?
Maybe it depends on what you do with it?
(How personally you take it etc).
Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 20, 2004, at 22:35:55
In reply to The Robber Bride, posted by alexandra_k on December 20, 2004, at 16:17:24
Wow a hidden thread....I almost missed it...I have PTSD and can read a room and people very fast in part because of it. I think in the right hands its a blessing to have this information but if someone is what I shall call thin skinned then I think it would be a curse...Say you can tell someone dislikes you before a friend asks and you cannot take being disliked...Or say you ask if someone thinks you look good in a dress and KNOW THEY DON'T.....IF YOU CANNOT TAKE IT...it would be a curse for people like me, I tend not to need a LOT of approval from others its a blessing ...Granted this is a smaller scale then your book but.... What did you think???
Posted by alexandra_k on December 20, 2004, at 23:47:52
In reply to Re: The Robber Bride » alexandra_k, posted by Fallen4MyT on December 20, 2004, at 22:35:55
I think that maybe being thin skinned is what makes that 'mind-reading' come naturally. Trauma especially, when you had to be super aware of negative vibes...
I guess some people learn how to do this by making a conscious effort (clinician's for example). It still seems a bit different though, and there are still some things they don't seem to get. I noticed this when I did DBT group - we were all in synch in the sense that we could understand the others responses whereas the skills trainers seemed awfully puzzled at times.
I guess I think maybe it is a mixed blessing.
I can usually tell when someone is unsure / hurt or something and hanging back. I am one of those people who go around to try and help such people feel better. Maybe because I have been there so many times myself. I can't bear to see others in pain.But a mixed blessing. Out of the trauma comes a special sensitivity. It can be used for good, or harm (e.g., when you take others responses really personally and cut or whatever over it).
But all things considered I suppose it is a gift.
It is the only good I can see out of so many horrible events.
Posted by verne on December 20, 2004, at 23:54:01
In reply to The Robber Bride, posted by alexandra_k on December 20, 2004, at 16:17:24
I bought the book but still haven't got around to reading it. Saw the movie and loved it. "Praise Be". Haven't read "Robber Bride". I think Atwood is on to something.
verne
Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 21, 2004, at 0:02:14
In reply to Re: The Robber Bride » Fallen4MyT, posted by alexandra_k on December 20, 2004, at 23:47:52
My T has said it is a form of hyper-vigilance ( I am sure I misspeled that lol...psst who cares) I can creep even him out when I have read his face in a millisecond in the waitingroomw when he comes to get me :) Then I will come in and say....man the girl at the front desk she lost someone recently no? And I am right. My latest was seeing my GP and her new nurse I met her 1 time before and we hit it off...I just knew something was up...she said nothing we got in the room and she said OK you got me and told me of two deaths in her family just that week.....I can read mad, sad , happy, fearful, tense you name it
I am creepy but nice hahahahah!!!
Posted by alexandra_k on December 21, 2004, at 0:38:07
In reply to And a HandMaid's Tale » alexandra_k, posted by verne on December 20, 2004, at 23:54:01
"A Handmaids Tale" is brilliant. I studied it at varsity. This year (aside from Harry Potter) all I have read is Atwood. I think that after a while they start to seem rather the same. But then so does Agatha Christie, so does a psycho-thriller, so does most everything...
I like her women, though.
I can get into the spirit of them indeed.(Holey wow, there are even study guides on Amazon!)
So I think you should read "Handmaids Tale". Really. It is very good indeed.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 21, 2004, at 0:39:36
In reply to Re: The Robber Bride » alexandra_k, posted by Fallen4MyT on December 21, 2004, at 0:02:14
> I am creepy but nice hahahahah!!!
Yes indeed, thats what we want to be :-)
I also like
crazy but nice hahahahah!!!
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