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Posted by geri122 on April 16, 2004, at 16:50:39
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know! » geri122, posted by LynneDa on April 16, 2004, at 11:42:05
I got home from my friends in the afternoon, went on with my normal buisness, never suspected anything. I went with her to go pick up my sister, We were a little early, so i guess she thought it would be the perfect time. She replied, "I have a problem". Then says i know that you went out parting. i repeatedly asked who told her, then she replied i read your journal. My heart dropped. I don't care that she knows that i went out , its the fact that my heart and soul is in that book. I don't want to talk about it, i don't want to dicuss it. No she did not tell my father and i hope she never does. Maybe one day io will be able to talk about it with her, but i can;t trust her, i can't, im not going to open up to her either, not at this moment at least.
It is hard to sit here and tell you how i feel, because i don't know. Im angry, upset, betrayed, every emotion in the book. I can tell you, but not them, do you know how much that hurts. Do you know how much it hurts to now not only hate my father but my mom. She wants to talk about it, but i don't. Now she might even be punishing my sister in return, not allowing her to spend the night at a friends house. I don't want to go out anymore, im not even going to my own prom. I don't have a boyfriend.. (even thought i like a guy and he likes me back. Even asked me out) because i don't have the energy. I want this all to end! EVERYTHING!
Posted by LynneDa on April 16, 2004, at 17:06:30
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know!, posted by geri122 on April 16, 2004, at 16:50:39
Big hugs to you honey! I know you're hurting. Let the dust settle, get over this in your own way. Don't make any decisions on how you're going to feel about it or handle it until you've let a few more days pass. I'm sorry you are so hurt and let down. I really hope you come to a point where you can talk to your Mom about your issues. Also, maybe she didn't really read it word for word, just enough to get the gist of what you'd been doing. Hang in there sweetie and talk to you next week. Chin up!!
~ Lynne
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>I got home from my friends in the afternoon, went on with my normal buisness, never suspected anything. I went with her to go pick up my sister, We were a little early, so i guess she thought it would be the perfect time. She replied, "I have a problem". Then says i know that you went out parting. i repeatedly asked who told her, then she replied i read your journal. My heart dropped. I don't care that she knows that i went out , its the fact that my heart and soul is in that book. I don't want to talk about it, i don't want to dicuss it. No she did not tell my father and i hope she never does. Maybe one day io will be able to talk about it with her, but i can;t trust her, i can't, im not going to open up to her either, not at this moment at least.
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> It is hard to sit here and tell you how i feel, because i don't know. Im angry, upset, betrayed, every emotion in the book. I can tell you, but not them, do you know how much that hurts. Do you know how much it hurts to now not only hate my father but my mom. She wants to talk about it, but i don't. Now she might even be punishing my sister in return, not allowing her to spend the night at a friends house. I don't want to go out anymore, im not even going to my own prom. I don't have a boyfriend.. (even thought i like a guy and he likes me back. Even asked me out) because i don't have the energy. I want this all to end! EVERYTHING!
Posted by fallsfall on April 16, 2004, at 18:45:59
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know!, posted by geri122 on April 16, 2004, at 16:50:39
Geri,
There is no way your mother should have read your journal. I don't blame you for being mad. I'm sure she does want to talk to you, but I also can really understand why you don't want to talk to her.
Tell her that you are angry and that you don't want to talk to her. But do ask her to get you an appointment with a therapist - she can do that without letting your dad know, I'm sure. Or she can tell your dad that she knows that you have some issues, but you don't want to talk to them - you want to talk to a therapist.
You've hesitated to go talk to anyone because you didn't want your parents to find out. Well, they did (at least half of them did). So, please go talk to someone who can help you.
And if you don't like or don't trust the first person you meet with, ask to meet with someone else. There is nothing that says you have to keep seeing whoever you see first. You are in charge here. Take this opportunity and get some help.
Or even ask her to make an appointment with your regular doctor, if you like him/her. They can help you proceed from here.
Please let yourself get the help you need.
Posted by geri122 on April 18, 2004, at 18:27:40
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know! » geri122, posted by fallsfall on April 16, 2004, at 18:45:59
I have decided to talk to my mother. There is no way around it. It all needs to be said, the good and bad, how i feel and what i need. I have to think about myself and my health. I can't run from this. You guys have given me the strength to do this. You have rashionalized my thoughts. Before i started posting here i thought my world had ended. I thought that i was the only one who felt this way. Its funny where some people find their strength. I always thought no one cared, you don't even know me, but yet you know my deepest thoughts. Throught the fights, and urges i had to stop my life from going on you were here. I know that my problems aren't over, and maybe never will, but haveing the knowledge that im not alone really helps. Im not to the point where i can be completely open with the world, but baby steps rights. This has opened my world. There will always be those dark moments, but i will always know someone is out there to help me through it all. If its not those at this site or a friend or family member, someone is out there, and i will find them. Thank you for being there.
Baby steps right.... slow and steady always wins the race.
Posted by sfmom on April 18, 2004, at 20:51:16
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know!, posted by geri122 on April 18, 2004, at 18:27:40
Geri, I am so proud of you!!! I can't really think of anything else to say because I'm sitting here crying, but I am just so glad that you realize that you are not alone. I wish you all the luck in the world when you talk to your mom. It's going to take some hard work, but you will come out the other side of this. Give your mom a break too, if she says or does something wrong. She's never been through this either! But I know that you love each other, and that counts for more than anything. I'm sending you my prayers and my love. Let us know how it goes as soon as you're able to write, okay?
Love, Lyssa
Posted by fallsfall on April 19, 2004, at 7:13:23
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know!, posted by geri122 on April 18, 2004, at 18:27:40
Good for you, Geri!
When you talk to your mother, imagine us standing around the two of you in a circle, protecting you and cheering you on (I'm the one with the pompoms...)
Let us know how it goes!
Posted by LynneDa on April 19, 2004, at 13:08:22
In reply to Re: Baby Steps » geri122, posted by fallsfall on April 19, 2004, at 7:13:23
Geri - I am so happy you made your decision!!! My eyes actually got a little misty with "happy tears" as my daughter calls them! Lyssa's right - it may be a little hard at first to get the words out and explain exactly what you mean. And your mom may not know the exact right thing to say either. But, it's a start and it will move you in a forward direction at least.
Like Fallsfall said, we'll be with you during your talk because we do care. You are so insightful about yourself and have the ability to look at things squarely in the eye and know what you're dealing with. You will get through this.
Let us know how it goes! I feel like we're your 3 fairygodmothers from Sleeping Beauty :-).
Love, peace & hugs,
Lynne
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Good for you, Geri!
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> When you talk to your mother, imagine us standing around the two of you in a circle, protecting you and cheering you on (I'm the one with the pompoms...)
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> Let us know how it goes!
Posted by AuntieMel on April 20, 2004, at 16:49:13
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know!, posted by geri122 on April 18, 2004, at 18:27:40
Jeez Louise. It feels like I'm looking through a looking glass at my life as a teenager.
Want to swap dad stories?
Mine added physical (whipping) abuse to the emotional abuse. The emotional abuse stays with you so much longer.
Sounds like you've got one (dad) like mine. Just no pleasing him so I quit trying. Example - to my sister he would say 'you work hard, too bad you aren't as smart as your sister' To me he said 'you are smart, too bad you are lazy' My little brother didn't have a chance.
It's amazing the kids didn't grow up hating each other, but at least we had a common enemy.
If he's anything like mine, it won't change. Putting others down was his way of dealing with his own insecurities - making himself feel better than others.
It can be adjusted to, though. It takes quite a bit of will power (yea, i know - right!) but what helped me was to remind myself that I don't have the power to changes others, but I do have the power to change the way I react to them. Much easier said than done if you've been made to feel inferior.
I hope things go well with you and your mom, but there's good chance that she, like my mom, is also afraid to speak up. Not fear of being hurt, but (and it's so difficult to explain to someone who hasn't exprienced it) the fear of being manipulated - having your own words turned against you.
Or maybe I'm just spewing with my own experience and it isn't at all like yours.
But, there are so many rays of hope out there. I ended up finally finishing up college after working my way through night school for years. That got me the best job in the world. I've been to some major cool places in my work (Poland, many times, England many times, China many times, Croatia during the Bosnian war, Australia, Italy and others) plus one, in my opinion, stinky place
(Kazakhstan), though I maybe thinking that because I was out in the boonies where foreigners are decidely not welcome.And with therapy, 30 years later, I'm finally starting to make headway on the "dad thing."
AuntieMel
Posted by geri122 on April 22, 2004, at 16:53:40
In reply to Re: Baby Steps » fallsfall, posted by LynneDa on April 19, 2004, at 13:08:22
my mom and i discussed some stuff, got some things out in the opening. THere are still somethings that need to be said that haven't, but time will only tell. Concerning my whole dad thing... i know that i can;t change him, i kno wthat i can only control myself and my decisions. I need to make good ones, i need to get out of here and explore the world. Im sorry that i made you cry... its just you know sometimes the words you see on paper are more real for those who understand. I have tried to say those same words to others and they just didn;t understand. THank you for understanding.
Before i thought my world caved in,i thought that i could not excape, but now that i have seen the world, i've found that i can succeed. My feelings and emotions will never go away, me pushing them away made matters worse. I can;t say thank you enough. I know that you guys will always listen (or read). I know that even if u can't answer them or be here in person i know u care, that is all that matters. U guys are angels from above, without u i don't know if i would be here today. THey say everything happens for a reason... maybe this happened to me to allow me to see outside the box.
Well anyways thanks. thanks a lot
I will write soon. BYES
Posted by LynneDa on April 22, 2004, at 17:02:07
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on April 22, 2004, at 16:53:40
Wow, really insightful stuff Geri!! I am really proud of you for seeing the silver lining underneath the black cloud. You not only got through a very rough patch, but you now realize first hand that growing means you sometimes have to go through a lot of manure first - and you can survive . . . and will actually thrive - I can see it!
You've made the first steps with your Mom. More will come out as time goes by and that's the normal flow of things. I'm really glad we could be here for you. You're a good and precious young woman and I'm very glad you're still here :-)!
~ Lynne
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>my mom and i discussed some stuff, got some things out in the opening. THere are still somethings that need to be said that haven't, but time will only tell. Concerning my whole dad thing... i know that i can;t change him, i kno wthat i can only control myself and my decisions. I need to make good ones, i need to get out of here and explore the world. Im sorry that i made you cry... its just you know sometimes the words you see on paper are more real for those who understand. I have tried to say those same words to others and they just didn;t understand. THank you for understanding.
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> Before i thought my world caved in,i thought that i could not excape, but now that i have seen the world, i've found that i can succeed. My feelings and emotions will never go away, me pushing them away made matters worse. I can;t say thank you enough. I know that you guys will always listen (or read). I know that even if u can't answer them or be here in person i know u care, that is all that matters. U guys are angels from above, without u i don't know if i would be here today. THey say everything happens for a reason... maybe this happened to me to allow me to see outside the box.
> Well anyways thanks. thanks a lot
> I will write soon. BYES
Posted by fallsfall on April 22, 2004, at 19:27:27
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on April 22, 2004, at 16:53:40
Geri,
You have done a really great job. I'm so glad to see some optimism in your post. You do have a wonderful life ahead of you.
It is so true that pushing emotions away just makes things worse. Many people never learn this - it will help you thoughout your life to know this.
I hope that your mom can continue to be a helpful part of your life. And I hope that a realistic view of your dad will make things easier there, too.
You have been through a lot of pain, but you have certainly learned and growed as a result.
My best wishes for your future.
Check in once in a while. I'd like to hear how you are doing.
Posted by sfmom on April 22, 2004, at 23:47:48
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on April 22, 2004, at 16:53:40
Wow Geri, you've really broadened your perspective, started some very hard work, and I'm really proud of you. Perspective is a crazy thing--when we're in the middle (or at the bottom) or something, we just can't see the larger picture and every single thing is overwhelming. But if we can somehow manage to step back far enough to glimpse how our hardships or our reality are just one thread in a tapestry (or one drop in the ocean, whatever analogy floats your boat)every step seems easier to manage and nothing is beyond our ability.
Okay, I may have gone off a little there, but I hope you know what I mean. Good luck with your continued talks with your mom. If you need anything, we'll be here with you whenever you need us. You have become a part of our lives too you know. Thank you for letting us.
Love, Lyssa
P.S. If you ever want to reach me by e-mail, my address is lking at mbdlaw dot com or olasovking at yahoo dot com. Don't be a stranger!
Posted by geri122 on April 27, 2004, at 19:09:30
In reply to Re: Baby Steps » geri122, posted by sfmom on April 22, 2004, at 23:47:48
A ex friend of mine called and we sat on the phone for more then an hour agruing. He said i need to change my image. that i don't have my priorities straight, he pretty much put me down. He was my brother and he really hurt me.. I hate him, he thinks that he understands, but he has no clue. He call me every name in the book and told me i will be nothing. I know that its not true, but i want to know how i should react on this. Try to explain or let it be?
Posted by sfmom on April 30, 2004, at 23:32:34
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on April 27, 2004, at 19:09:30
Hi Geri,
Wow. That's a difficult situation to be in--for both of you. I don't know the details, but it seems like, as much as you may disagree and fight, that you care about each other. It's the people we care about who really have the power to hurt us, intentionally or not. By no means is it okay that he put you down and called you names and I hope that you are comfortable enough to tell him that if he wants to be a part of your life he's going to have to find a better way to communicate. But it may be that he's saying all of these things out of desperation and love for you and just doesn't know how to express himself in a constructive way. If so, it's a pretty typical male attribute!
What you have to decide is if it's worth your effort and energy to help him to understand what you are going through, or if you just don't have that kind of energy to spare right now and and need to come back and deal with this relationship when you have more perspective. I don't have all of the information and I'm not advacating one way or the other, that's for you to decide. But we'll be here to help and offer support and advice whenever you need us. Good luck and please keep us posted.
By the way, how are things going with your mom???
Love, lyssa
Do you want to go more in detail with us about your relationship and/or
> A ex friend of mine called and we sat on the phone for more then an hour agruing. He said i need to change my image. that i don't have my priorities straight, he pretty much put me down. He was my brother and he really hurt me.. I hate him, he thinks that he understands, but he has no clue. He call me every name in the book and told me i will be nothing. I know that its not true, but i want to know how i should react on this. Try to explain or let it be?
Posted by geri122 on May 3, 2004, at 14:51:51
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by sfmom on April 30, 2004, at 23:32:34
sorry i haven't written in a while... my dad has not let me on.. its after school right now so i have a chance. Things here are ok i guess. I have been busy with prom things. Yes prom. I am going with a guy friend of mine. He doesn't know about anything that has happened so i am hoping we can have a stress free fun filled night.I don't know... i just need one night like that you know. sorry to keep it so short i don't want my dad to see me on here. i will be back on hopefully later to let you know
Posted by LynneDa on May 3, 2004, at 14:59:30
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on May 3, 2004, at 14:51:51
Hi Geri -
I'm sorry to hear your computer time has been restricted, I know that's frustrating :-(. You sound pretty good though. Prom! That's great, when is it? I truly hope you can have a relaxing evening. You definitely deserve it! Maybe you can use it as a fresh start, with this guy friend. Keep us posted when you can. I'll be sending good thoughts your way!
~ Lynne
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sorry i haven't written in a while... my dad has not let me on.. its after school right now so i have a chance. Things here are ok i guess. I have been busy with prom things. Yes prom. I am going with a guy friend of mine. He doesn't know about anything that has happened so i am hoping we can have a stress free fun filled night.I don't know... i just need one night like that you know. sorry to keep it so short i don't want my dad to see me on here. i will be back on hopefully later to let you know
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Posted by fallsfall on May 4, 2004, at 6:32:40
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on May 3, 2004, at 14:51:51
That is so exciting. What color is your dress? Does it make you feel elegant? What will you do with your hair? I hope that you have fun being all dressed up and that you feel as special as you are!
Posted by geri122 on May 7, 2004, at 14:45:22
In reply to Re: Baby Steps » geri122, posted by LynneDa on May 3, 2004, at 14:59:30
fights.... too many fights.. you know now i really know why i can;t bottle everything up... i have gotten in soo many fights... arguments that almost lead to physical fighting.
For the longest time i have kept everything to myself... yesterday i got into ywo fights with two guys. ONe was not as big as the second. The second i almost got into a fight with a guy... it pissed meoff so much that i was shacking uncontrollably.
How do i control myself??
Posted by LynneDa on May 7, 2004, at 15:07:19
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on May 7, 2004, at 14:45:22
Hi Geri -
Anger is caused by so many things. Obviously it's how you react to it that is what matters.
1. Avoid people or situations that typically make you angry as much as possible. (Duh - sounds logical, but many people, like me, are drawn to drama and I almost unknowingly allow myself to get into volatile situations just for the "fun" of it. Sick I know, a bad pattern, but one many people get into.)2. Take a multi-vitamin & extra Vitamin B. It does not become toxic, you'll "excrete" the extra (so it will look very yellow - not to worry!). The B Vitamins help strengthen your nervous system, which helps you stay a bit calmer.
3. Find a better outlet for your emotional energy on a daily basis - instead of letting them get bottled up & then exploding. Punching bag? Running? Writing? Dance? Yoga?
4. The more times you speak up about the little things that bother you, the less you will blow up. For example: calmly disagree with someone 10 times a day versus blowing up once a day :-).
5. Can you enlist a friend to forcibly drag you away when they can see you heating up? This is the hardest thing to do and I certainly could not do it every time (hardly ever actually), but walking away is worth a try!
Honey, the main thing I can tell you is I know that blow-up/anger feeling. It's like a volcano and you can't stop what comes out of your mouth - rational or irrational. It is different than normal anger. Control is a hard thing to master under the best of circumstances and, because you don't have a history of anger and acting out, I am betting that it is hormonal.
Also, can you keep track of your worst anger moments? Is it worse right before your period? Does chocolate or caffeine help you feel better? If so, the pill may help you. NOT that I'm condoning putting teenagers on birth control!!! That is a very personal decision, but from a hormonal stand-point, it is a better place to start than going straight to an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication.
The other thing that will help you is counseling. Talking things over with someone is SUCH a good release, I can't tell you. Talking to friends is good, but I get a lot of helpful tips from my counselor and I feel accountable to be able to report improvements in my behavior so I seem to work harder on the parts of me I can change or control versus trying to do it on my own.
You will get there sweetie! Everyone's path is different, but my wish for you is that you get some help earlier in your life rather than later. You are already pretty self aware and that is a big step you know!!
Have a good weekend & thanks for keeping in touch!
~ Lynne>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Posted by geri122 on May 16, 2004, at 16:53:23
In reply to Re: Baby Steps » geri122, posted by LynneDa on May 7, 2004, at 15:07:19
prom was last night. I had fun.. i mean there was a lot of drama. We took pictures at the dock, it was cold but it was fun. We went to dinner and just hung out. After the prom we went glow bowling. A whole bunch of our friends went there and we just hung out. A friend of mine called me up on the phone and said she was coming... yeah well they showed up drunk. Now mind you.. these are the same people that judged me for drinking away my problems. You don't know how much that hurt me. You know if the wouldn't have made a big deal about me then everything would be ok.. but they did. I don't want to be friends with people who make it ok for then but not me. We left bowling early because i could not be around that.. it hurt me because we put our differences aside and started be friends again. Now what do i do... make a big deal let them know how i feel or blow them off?
Posted by sfmom on May 17, 2004, at 11:25:21
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on May 16, 2004, at 16:53:23
Hi Geri,
Well, I'm glad that you went and had a good time, and I'm sorry about all the drama. In answer to your question, you don't have to do either. (Make a big deal or blow them off.) You can just tell them that you were hurt by their double standards. You don't have to make it a big confrontation, in fact, that would only make them more defensive and less likely to really listen to you--just tell them how you feel and let them respond or not. That's really all any of us can do.
But, even though I don't know these people or all of the circumstances, I do have to say that there is a difference between drowning our sorrows on a regular basis and having a few (or more) drinks on a big night like prom. I'm not saying that you do not have every right to feel hurt and betrayed, just that circumstances are different for everyone.
Please let us know what you decide to do. And always remember that we support you 100%, so just carry us around in your pocket.
Also, what are your plans for the summer?
Posted by LynneDa on May 18, 2004, at 10:36:19
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on May 16, 2004, at 16:53:23
Hi Geri - I'm so glad you had fun, you needed it!! It sounds like, even with the situation that occurred, it was a good night for you. What did you decide to do about your friends who showed up drunk? I agree with Lyssa, it was a one-time special event, BUT I would also be ticked off about it. Not everything's black & white is it??? :-) I hope you can talk to her about it and let her know it hurt you, but then listen to her side of it too. What you've been through has given you a different view, maybe even a little more mature view, than some of your friends. Everybody learns their life's lessons at a different pace.
How's it going with your Mom?
Take care sweetie!
~ Lynne
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prom was last night. I had fun.. i mean there was a lot of drama. We took pictures at the dock, it was cold but it was fun. We went to dinner and just hung out. After the prom we went glow bowling. A whole bunch of our friends went there and we just hung out. A friend of mine called me up on the phone and said she was coming... yeah well they showed up drunk. Now mind you.. these are the same people that judged me for drinking away my problems. You don't know how much that hurt me. You know if the wouldn't have made a big deal about me then everything would be ok.. but they did. I don't want to be friends with people who make it ok for then but not me. We left bowling early because i could not be around that.. it hurt me because we put our differences aside and started be friends again. Now what do i do... make a big deal let them know how i feel or blow them off?
Posted by geri122 on May 19, 2004, at 14:42:03
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by sfmom on May 17, 2004, at 11:25:21
thanks.. i did have fun at prom and im sad that it is over. Im soon to be a sr and this was my last real night with my sr friends now. I took care of the situation.. like always i kept it to myself. I didn't say anything because i want thigs to be ok.. i don't need anymore stress or drama. Thanks for always being here.
The issur with my mom. I sat down with her and talked. me, mmy friend and her talked and made promises to each other. its still shacky but that is all in time.
Posted by LynneDa on May 19, 2004, at 14:51:58
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on May 19, 2004, at 14:42:03
I'm happy to hear you're talking to your Mom. That is a big plus for you. It's neat that you had a friend with you. Sometimes it helps to have another person with you for moral support and to help give another perspective on the situation. I'm proud of you for handling the prom situation as you did. Good job - as long as you let it go in your mind and don't stew over it!
Question - you seem to be in a calmer mode, not having those unexplainable anger bouts. Do you notice those times to be cyclical each month? I sort of flip out about 10 days before my period and then about 3 days before. Sometimes if you know that your mind set is just a temporary state - that you'll feel better in another day or so - it helps you get through it!
School's almost out - is that a good thing for you or will you miss it over the summer? What are you going to be doing?
~ Lynne
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>thanks.. i did have fun at prom and im sad that it is over. Im soon to be a sr and this was my last real night with my sr friends now. I took care of the situation.. like always i kept it to myself. I didn't say anything because i want thigs to be ok.. i don't need anymore stress or drama. Thanks for always being here.
> The issur with my mom. I sat down with her and talked. me, mmy friend and her talked and made promises to each other. its still shacky but that is all in time.
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Posted by sfmom on May 19, 2004, at 16:42:44
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on May 19, 2004, at 14:42:03
Geri,
I'm so proud of the very mature way you are dealing with your relationship with your mom. I'm also glad that you brought support (your friend) with you too. It'll be a constant process, but it will be worth it for both of you.
Regarding the issue of your friends and prom night, if it's over, I'm glad. But like Lynne said, it doesn't count as resolved if you stew over it and still feel betrayed. If so, it might be worth it to talk to your friends. It sounds cheesy, but if you use "I" statements (i.e. "I feel hurt and betrayed") it really does go more smoothly.
Whatever you decide, I hope you have a great summer. Will you get a chance to hang out with your senior friends over the summer? Are you working? Do you have a friend away from home that you can visit for a while for a change of scenery? By the way, how are things with your sister? Have you talked to her the way you have with your mom? Maybe the three of you could do something special together this summer?
Anyway, keep us posted. I think we're all a little jealous of your summer break!
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