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Posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 7:43:10
I feel really low and just wanted to tell someone cos no-one in my 'real' life knows and I dont want to worry them. I was hoping if I told you it'd make me feel better, but it hasn't yet. Maybe when I send it I'll feel better..........
Posted by Dinah on October 13, 2003, at 9:08:26
In reply to I'm abit of a mess, posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 7:43:10
I'm sorry to hear that. Any idea of what's going on? Or is it a cyclical drop in mood?
If it helps to talk, this board is here for that.
Do you have a therapist? I'm sorry, I forget sometimes. I, too, don't like to bother my family with the ups and downs of my moods. So I find that having a person I don't have to protect is invaluable.
Posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 9:32:57
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » cubic_me, posted by Dinah on October 13, 2003, at 9:08:26
Hi Dinah,
My mood does tend to go in cycles but I dont know whats going on with me. A few days ago I was fine and thought the meds might be working. I started therapy again last week, I've got another appointment soon. I dont want to think that its therapy that makes me feel this low. Maybe it just brings back all the stuff I try not to think about.
My head is all a mess and I can feel the pain all over my body. It makes me really nauseous sometimes. And I have to carry on like normal cos everyone thinks i've been ok the last few months and they dont want me bringing them down.
Oh well, I suppose I'll just have to readapt to feeling lousy all the time again.
Posted by Dinah on October 13, 2003, at 9:42:39
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » Dinah, posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 9:32:57
It might be the therapy, or it might be the cycle. But in case it's the therapy, why don't you talk to your therapist about how you're feeling and some coping and self soothing mechanisms before you continue with the deeper work.
And you don't have to pretend with your therapist or here.
And remember, what goes down usually comes up again. For those of us with mood cycles, hanging on is sometimes all we can do. And at least we know that whatever the emotional weather, it won't last forever.
Posted by sarita0001 on October 13, 2003, at 9:56:47
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » Dinah, posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 9:32:57
HI,
I hope you're doing better by the time you get this. Therapy is hard! I give kudos to anyone who goes. It is so hard to talk about things from our past/present that hurt. But once we try to make sense of them that is when it is working. If someone left therapy all the time feeling good, then something is not right. It's all a process.
Dinah is right- the emotional weather changes, thank goodness.
Sara
Posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 11:07:52
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » cubic_me, posted by sarita0001 on October 13, 2003, at 9:56:47
I've just been to therapy. It was abit hellish. I said I was feeling worse and it took her 1/2 hour to get out of me how I was feeling. Why cant I talk like a normal person and say how I feel? and to top it off I said I was going to a training session for being a person who answers calls for people who want to talk (like a helpline but we only listen), and she said she will be there tonight to do a talk to all the trainees! Great, now I'm gonna feel even more uncomfortable.
_me
ps thanks for all your support guys, your brill :-)
Posted by sarita0001 on October 13, 2003, at 11:38:09
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » sarita0001, posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 11:07:52
Hi,
I think that's great that you are going to work for a helpline. I can totally understand why you'd be uncomfortable. I have trouble saying what I feel too- that is why I had to keep journals since I was 10, it helped though. Good luck at your training.
Sara
Posted by Adia on October 13, 2003, at 12:23:24
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » sarita0001, posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 11:07:52
Hi..:o)
I just wanted to reach out to you..
that's good that you could tell your therapist how you were truly feeling...
Sometimes I too spend half the session just trying to articulate one phrase to tell her how I feel...
I guess that gets easier with time and trust ..
but the good thing is that you could let her know.
Therapy stirs up soooo many feelings, I feel an emotional mess afterwards most of the time.
I hope you can keep talking to her about it...I would feel a bit uncomfortable to see my therapist in other circumstances...
I hope it goes well tonight..sending you support and hoping you are doing a little better,
Adia.
> I've just been to therapy. It was abit hellish. I said I was feeling worse and it took her 1/2 hour to get out of me how I was feeling. Why cant I talk like a normal person and say how I feel? and to top it off I said I was going to a training session for being a person who answers calls for people who want to talk (like a helpline but we only listen), and she said she will be there tonight to do a talk to all the trainees! Great, now I'm gonna feel even more uncomfortable.
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> _me
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> ps thanks for all your support guys, your brill :-)
Posted by Ayla on October 13, 2003, at 15:12:24
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » sarita0001, posted by cubic_me on October 13, 2003, at 11:07:52
I'm sooo sorry that you're not feeling well. I hope it gets better soon for you. You can say things like a normal person! You're having no problem telling us, although I'm sure it's easier to write things than to say them out loud. Maybe you could give that a try at therapy, I'm sure it won't be the strangest thing your therapist has ever heard. Maybe you could even write it all out before you go and just give it to her. I have never been to therapy (not that I don't need it) so I just wanted to let you know that as I am giving you advice on your therapy because it is probable that I have no idea what I am talking about, I don't think it is a half bad idea though. So here are Lots and Lots of big hugs to you!!!! I hope you feel better soon. Ayla
P.S. We're the same age!
Posted by cubic_me on October 14, 2003, at 5:24:33
In reply to Re: I'm abit of a mess » cubic_me, posted by Ayla on October 13, 2003, at 15:12:24
Thanks hunnies,
It went ok last night, just tried not to make eye contact and kept my distance. It was wierd though.
I've thought about writing things down, at one of our first sessions she said that maybe I should do that. So I tested the water last week and made a joke about writing an essay about whatever thing it was we were talking about. I got the feeling that she really wasnt amused! I used to write things that I wanted to talk about on my hand so I wouldnt forget anything, but there were always so many things that it got confusing and we never got into any depth on one thing.This stuf is so hard, can I just go and hide for a while?
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