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Posted by Deneb on November 20, 2005, at 9:34:47
I keep thinking that maybe Hammie wasn't dead when I buried him. I think that maybe Hammie is out there somewhere, scampering about. I just can't fully accept that Hammie is dead. Is this normal for me to feel?
Rationally I know that Hammie died, but then I still think maybe he wasn't really dead.
Deneb
Posted by Tabitha on November 20, 2005, at 9:34:47
In reply to About Hammie *trigger*, posted by Deneb on November 19, 2005, at 16:21:04
I think it's just hard to accept death. It's really beyond comprehension. I've been visited by dead pets (and people) in dreams, and it's always nice to see them.
Posted by sleepygirl on November 20, 2005, at 9:34:47
In reply to About Hammie *trigger*, posted by Deneb on November 19, 2005, at 16:21:04
I'm so sorry Deneb. I think Hammie was very lucky to have you as his mom. I think maybe you just couldn't accept him being dead - he's been your dear sweet Hammie :-(
Posted by Phillipa on November 20, 2005, at 9:34:47
In reply to Re: About Hammie *trigger* » Deneb, posted by sleepygirl on November 19, 2005, at 22:18:49
Deneb I have my very first dog a lapsapoo who was my best friend. He died when he was l7yrs old 2yrs ago and the toy poodle I got when I had him to keep him company. She dies l0months later. Both have been cremated and they sit in urns on my dresser in my bedroom. When I did my wish is that they will be buried with me. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Phillipa on November 20, 2005, at 9:34:47
In reply to About Hammie *trigger*, posted by Deneb on November 19, 2005, at 16:21:04
And Deneb have you read Rainbow Bridge? It's about our pets in heaven playing with no pain feeling well, the day we die they look over the bridge see us and run and jump into our arms. They cross over the bridge to people heaven and we are together forever in Heaven. They are waiting there for us. Not suffering at all. It's just a beautiful poem . Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Deneb on November 20, 2005, at 11:56:37
In reply to Re: About Hammie *trigger*, posted by Tabitha on November 19, 2005, at 18:57:38
Death is scary sometimes. Right after Hammie died I developed a fear of death. This is strange for me because I usually think about death a lot and it doesn't bother me. This time it was different. I think I realized what death was really about and it scared me. I'm afraid of dying. I'm afraid that I must die one day.
I cried a lot when Hammie died. It's difficult for me to accept that I'll never see Hammie again. I don't really believe in an afterlife. My new hamster Sophie now distracts me from the loss of Hammie, but she doesn't replace Hammie. I miss Hammie.
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on November 20, 2005, at 12:03:46
In reply to Re: About Hammie *trigger* » Deneb, posted by sleepygirl on November 19, 2005, at 22:18:49
> I'm so sorry Deneb. I think Hammie was very lucky to have you as his mom. I think maybe you just couldn't accept him being dead - he's been your dear sweet Hammie :-(
I keep thinking that maybe I made a mistake...that Hammie wasn't really dead...that he was just sleeping really soundly. I'm not a vet......I'm not competent to declare death right???
Sigh...
I knew Hammie left when I found him...the image of him dead is clear. I remember handling his body and suddenly I was afraid of touching him. This has never happened before. I would never be afraid to touch Hammie. That's when I knew that the Hammie I knew and loved was gone. What was left was not Hammie anymore. What was left was foreign and scary to me.
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on November 20, 2005, at 12:06:36
In reply to Re: About Hammie *trigger*, posted by Phillipa on November 19, 2005, at 23:06:06
> Deneb I have my very first dog a lapsapoo who was my best friend. He died when he was l7yrs old 2yrs ago and the toy poodle I got when I had him to keep him company. She dies l0months later. Both have been cremated and they sit in urns on my dresser in my bedroom. When I did my wish is that they will be buried with me. Fondly, Phillipa
I'm sorry for the loss of your dogs. It must have been heartbreaking to lose both. I had Hammie for 2 years 7 months and I grew very attached to him. I can only imagine how attached you must have been after 17 years.
Deneb
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