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Posted by Rach on December 25, 2002, at 21:00:00
Merry Christmas everyone. It's great to see some favorite faces around here.
Noa - I've missed you. Do you know that you were the first person ever to 'talk' to me on PB?
Shar - Do you remember how I thought that you were around my age (early 20s), and my surprise (and embarassment) to discover you weren't. Then someone, Noa I think, pointed out it was a compliment to both of us?
Deb - how's the weather your way? It was a very cold Christmas here, it even rained a little.
Personal Update: I spoke to my Dad and refused to give up my car. We came to a deal, and decided the car would go, and my parents would get me another one. Dad then changed his mind, so I still have my car. Found out some awful stuff, like my Dad's boss threatened to shoot him in March this year, and other stuff that I really wish I could talk about with people but would be too dangerous legally. I've been told stuff 1:1 that I shouldn't have to deal with, and I can't even share it with someone. Grr...
Anyway, I'm now alone, at my parents house. Parents away for a week, and my sister is gone for a few days, so I have the house to myself.
Had really odd, scary dreams last night. Stressing about what to do next year. Realising I've been out of school for almost 5 years now, and have nothing to show for it, and seem to be completely unemployable. Too experienced for this job, too young for that job, too old for this job, too unqualified for that job...
Worry worry worry...
:)
Posted by Greg on December 26, 2002, at 19:16:54
In reply to Wow! Activity everywhere (memories), posted by Rach on December 25, 2002, at 21:00:00
Wow Rachie...
Merry Christmas to you too.
I have to admit that I'm a little confused, but I think you still have your car? Just out of curiousity, what kind is it? If this deal falls thru, I have a car you can have, but you have to come to California to get it...I'll get to meet you somehow :)
This is just MHO, but it sounds like time for Dad to start looking for another job if he hasn't already. I've had some run-ins with my bosses before, but never had one threaten to shoot me. Did he take any legal action? That guy has no business being anybody's boss. I really wish you were able to talk about this other stuff that's going on, I'm sure it would help to get it out. But you know what's best. We're all pulling for you.
Something is going to come thru for you on the job front Rach, I know it will. I hate to talk like an old fart, but I really hate to see someone so young like you dealing with so much stress. Do you have anything along the lines of a placement agency where you live? You pay them a small fee (which can usually be billed to you after you start working) and they place you in a job of your choosing (of course you have some qualifications). The interviewing process is usually pretty low-key as the companies are already contracted with the agency. It might be a lot less stressful way for you to get your foot in the door somewhere. I don't know how it is there, but the interview process here has become absolutely brutal! Sometimes you'll see as many as 15-20 people, spread out over 3 or 4 different visits. Then there's intensive background checks, references, they even do credit checks here now....
Anyway, I'm sorry that you're in so much worry hun. Wish I could help. I hope things get better real soon.
Makes one think that maybe Gilligan didn't have so bad on that island after all, eh? :)
Love ya,
Greg
Posted by shar on December 26, 2002, at 21:51:04
In reply to Re: Wow! Activity everywhere (memories), posted by Greg on December 26, 2002, at 19:16:54
Good memories. I had forgotten that, Rach, about you thinking I was your age; I think Noa is right. I remember so clearly, though, some of your early posts that were so poignant, sweet, full of pain...wow, just about broke my heart to read some of that.
You are in a much better place now, it seems, even though there is a lot of stress. Like Greg said, it's hard to see someone so young have so much stress. Wish part of life could be easy for everyone; preferably childhood, but we all know that doesn't always work out.
I am amazed that you aren't getting hired. AND to read that you are considered too old for some jobs!! That is a mind blower. I can relate...it's just that I'm about 30 years older than you!
I've been out of work a couple of years (or, shall we say, severely underemployed...) and it is a continual source of worry for me. Guess I'm in good company with you and Greg. What can anyone possibly be thinking, not to hire us?!
Hope you have a good new year, Rach, and a fulfilling job in the future. (Oh, I'd pass on the car from Greg...I think it just blew its third water pump or something....)
Bad, bad Shar
Posted by Rach on December 27, 2002, at 3:41:38
In reply to Re: Wow! Activity everywhere (memories)-R and G, posted by shar on December 26, 2002, at 21:51:04
I've been doing a lot of reminiscing lately, I'm not sure why. Found my old diaries today from 8yrs old to 15yrs. God, there is this one entry, and you can see the ink smudged from my crying. It's a truly scary entry, severe depression and lots of fear. It's quite odd, too, because I talk about a male in the entry, without naming him. In my head, I know I was talking about a boy I had a MAJOR crush on, but now I think it was really about my Grandpa. It's particularly odd that I never mentioned a name.
Greg & I became great friends because we were going to do a combined effort and create a file on meditation for Dr Bob. Hmm...hey Greg, it's only about, what, 2 years in the making? :)
My Dad has quit his job, but living in a rural area makes it almost impossible for him to find something else. He left the job about 2 months ago.
I'm seeing a couple of friends tonight (back in Melb & away from the seclusion of my parent's place), so I think I'll have a chat to one of them about the 'secrets'. The reason I'm being so wary about spilling it is that there could be really big legal ramifications.
I doubt Dad will sue, although I wish he would, but the company may take him to court, in which case I think he'll counter sue. Yep, I still have the car, its a Toyota Camry. Very confusing business, really!
On the job front, I'm just waiting it out. I have to wait for the First Aid places to open. Then I can get my certificate, in which case I'm qualified to teach aerobics. There's lots of jobs going, and hopefully nobody will read too much into my age. If so, I'll just go out to the smaller gyms in the suburbs that are desperate for teachers!
I know I'm in a better place. I'm med free again (getting close to 6 months, I think), and feel like while all this crap is happening, I can deal with it, and that I will come out the other side unscathed. I know this will soon pass.
I'm thinking of going travelling in the second part of this year, so watch out what you wish for Greg...
xxx Rach
Posted by Greg on December 27, 2002, at 15:08:42
In reply to Re: Wow! Activity everywhere (memories)-R and G, posted by shar on December 26, 2002, at 21:51:04
> Hope you have a good new year, Rach, and a fulfilling job in the future. (Oh, I'd pass on the car from Greg...I think it just blew its third water pump or something....)
>
> Bad, bad SharAt no point did I say that the car actually ran, I just said she could have it. I'm trying to get her here for a visit Shar, AND YOU'RE NOT HELPING DAMMIT! Would it hurt for you to play along here?
I mean, where's the love? :)
Oh well, back to the drawing board.
Posted by Rach on December 27, 2002, at 20:37:35
In reply to A point of clarification if I may? » shar, posted by Greg on December 27, 2002, at 15:08:42
Posted by shar on December 27, 2002, at 21:36:48
In reply to A point of clarification if I may? » shar, posted by Greg on December 27, 2002, at 15:08:42
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