Posted by peddidle on March 4, 2007, at 23:29:05
In reply to my prof yelled at me (long), posted by peddidle on February 28, 2007, at 21:52:38
I emailed my professor late Thursday night. I basically said that he had every right to be angry about my coming late to class. I apologized, and told him that, even though I don't have an excuse for being late, it is something that I am workin on.
But I also told him that I was hurt by his comments regarding my extended time. My extended time is not a privilege, it is an accommodation given to me by Disability Services. I told him that I appreciate his, and my other professors', understanding, but that it is college policy that I be granted this accommodation based on documented need.
Well....he wrote back, and basically just yelled at me again over the internet. He said that my "accommodation" (his quotes, not mine) is really a recommendation from the college. It is not an absolute right. I should be grateful that he chooses to honor it, because it is inconvenient for him. The fact that I came late was taking advantage of the privilege that he affords me, and shows that his time means nothing to me. He said the fact that I disrupted a class full of exam takers seems not to matter to me, and that I inconvenienced him and the rest of the class "for the sake of a few more minutes of sleep or whatever else you were doing between 10 and 11." He said he found my chronic lateness appalling, but this stunt was the last straw. He then said that my email suggested that I really don't understand how rude and disruptive my behavior was.
He sent me a second email saying that he just noticed that I sent my email at 3:05am, and perhaps that has something to do with the chronic lateness at 11. As if the first email wasn't bad enough, the second one was completely unecessary. I also noticed that he CCed my advisor on both of the emails. Great.
So much for trying to be civil. Clearly, I can't do anything right. I'm probably going to go into my usual passive-aggressive mode and see what happens tomorrow morning. If I oversleep (as I no doubt will), and it looks like I'll be late, I just won't go. Better that than be embarrassed as he refuses to let me in the room.
I forwarded both of the emails to my T. I'm sure I'll hear from her tomorrow morning. She was really concerned on Thursday, to the point where she asked me if I wanted to come in on Monday (see my post on the psych board for more info). So I hope the emails don't make her worried about me. I was planning on just walking in tomorrow and saying "Hi, I'm fine, see ya Thursday!", but I guess I'll decide after I hear from her...or be passive-aggressive and let her decide, but she won't play that game with me. :)
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