Posted by peddidle on February 28, 2007, at 21:52:38
I am always late for my morning classes. It doesn't matter what time it is, 9AM, 10AM, 11AM, if it is my first class of the day and it is in the AM, I am going to be late. I don't do it intentionally, I just can't get there on time.
I had this professor last semester too. He sent me an email about always coming to his 9AM class late. It was not an excessively mean email, but I got his point. Now I have class with him at 11AM this semester. I always get to his class late as well, but not nearly as late as the 9AM. I used to show up at the 9AM class 15 or 20 minutes late (I had been 45min late the day he sent me the email). I don't think I've been more than 10 minutes late for this class, and usually it's more like 5 minutes.
Well, I had his midterm today, and I was about 5 minutes late. I could tell he was really annoyed when he handed me the exam. I had to go to a different building for my extended time. When he finally told me to stop, (technically, I think should have still had 5 or 10 minutes left, but he said he had a meeting and had to get something to eat first...), I walked into his office and handed him the exam. Then as I turned to leave, he just started yelling at me about always coming to class late. He said he knows he's mentioned it to me before, and I continue to show up late. He told me he looked at my schedule, and he knows I don't have a class before his, so there's no reason that I should come to his class late. He was especially upset that I came to the midterm late. Then he said that it is a privilege that I get extended time on exams. It's really inconvenient for my professors, but they comply with it anyway, and I have no right to show up to an exam late just because I know that I get extended time. He said that next time I show up at his class late, he's not going to let me in.
Whoa!! First of all, my extended time is not a "privilege", it is a necessary accommodation. There's a difference. Second of all, I don't show-up late to exams just because I know I get more time than everyone else. One thing has nothing to do with the other. Plus, it's not like came 30min late because I knew I would have an extra 40min-- I got there 5min late. It didn't help that he started yelling at me right after I took an exam that I was pretty sure I failed. I'm think he was grading the papers that we handed in on Monday, which I'm also pretty sure I didn't not do well on.
I'm thinking I just shouldn't go to his class at all anymore. I'm always going to be afraid that if I'm 2min late he'll yell at me, or won't let me in and end up embarassing me in front of the class. I guess I could just read the book(s) and get all the info I need. Haha yeah, that's likely to happen.
I don't blame him for being upset. I know it's not right to get to class late, but he also didn't need to blow up at me like that. He didn't even let me get a word in, not that I really wanted to say anything. I just wanted to get out of there. I was so upset I just started crying uncontrollably. I tried calling my friend who can always make me laugh no matter how upset I am. He couldn't talk, but I told him it was ok. I didn't really want to talk about what happened, I just wanted to talk to someone. All my other friends were either busy or didn't answer their phones. So I hid in the bathroom and cried until my next class, 20min later.
This all happened around the end of lunchtime, so I was kind of hoping I would run into my T on her way back from lunch, but no such luck. I see her tomorrow, so hopefully I'll be just upset enough that I'll want to vent to her rather than so upset that I don't want to talk at all, if that makes any sense.
Anyway, sorry this is so long. I was just having a really stressful couple of weeks to begin with, and this was just one more thing that I didn't need.
poster:peddidle
thread:737195
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