Posted by alexandra_k on March 27, 2018, at 1:26:03
In reply to Mortified myself, posted by Clearskies on March 17, 2018, at 23:47:51
I'm not sure I follow... You haven't heard from him in a while and you got to wondering why... And now you are thinking that he got the wrong message from you at some point...
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Are you going to get back in touch?
I have had that kind of relationship before, and it actually worked pretty well for us both, for a time. Sort of on and then off over... Years, really.
He was a fairly easy-going guy, though, and we both saw that we were heading in different directions into the future.
We were able to take breaks in the benefits when he pursued something more seriously with someone else. And when I started to feel like it wasn't good for me, anymore.
Maybe part of what held things together was that he was a pot-smoker so we used to smoke when we were together. Smoke pot and play cards... Or talk about classes (once he was studying at uni).
I caught up with him years later (once I'd quit the smoking) and... We didn't have anything in common, anymore.
I guess friendship can be retained if you have more in common than the chemistry sort of spark... There are quite a few guys who don't belive it is possible to be 'just friends' with women... But then there are guys who genuinely do enjoy hanging out. Usually... If you have something you like to do together (other than the benefits thing).
Just my experience..
Are you ok?
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