Posted by SLS on November 17, 2010, at 7:32:19
In reply to Re: FYI » gardenergirl, posted by fayeroe on November 16, 2010, at 19:57:14
> This is a mental health forum and naturally there are people here who have low self-esteem and they will be hurt if they think someone dislikes them.
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> ...I have encountered folks in my lifetime who seem to "thrive" on gossip. It's like it's a source of energy or vitality for them.
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> I actually feel sort of sad when I think about someone who gains so much from gossip, because I get the impression that they are striving for something, maybe esteem, that they aren't getting elsewhere in life. And I believe we all are worthy of esteem, at the very least, self-esteem. So I feel sad about it.You are right. It is sad. I like your ability to exercise compassion and understanding for all the people involved in such a harmful array of gossip behaviors. I guess everyone involved gets hurt here. Unfortunately, many names become included, unwittingly and unwillingly. They don't wish to be a participant, yet they become subject to conditions that were chosen by others and that are beyond the subject's control.
At this point in the thread, the name of a protagonist has been offerred. I don't know how that will influence future behaviors. Hopefully, this thread will allow the people who drive or participate in the gossip to become cognizant of the way their behaviors affect others adversely, despite not wanting to harm anyone.
Perhaps this will be a learning experience for everyone.
- ScottSome see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.
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