Posted by TexasChic on October 19, 2008, at 9:28:55
In reply to I need support, posted by Angela2 on October 18, 2008, at 12:10:55
> I'm trying to make my life right. I feel lonely right now and often. I volunteer at a local charity. I feel like people there (my supervisors) treat me like I am a kid. I'm 25. I am better than just doing easy clerical tasks. I think I want to help people somehow. And use my brain, lol.
One of the best things I learned from a T is that you can't MAKE other people change. However, you can change the way YOU act, which in turn can change the way people treat you. It was kind of an eye opening thought for me. I could sit around and be mad about the way other people were treating me all day long, but that wasn't going to change anything. But if I were to change how I was acting, then I may be able to get a different reaction out of other people. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut and don't realize but we aren't doing anything different. I have no idea if this makes sense, that's what I get for trying to write before I've had any caffeine.
> I don't have friends right now. I'm trying to keep in mind that I will be doing some things that are social next week. But my frustration and wanting intimacy and friendship NOW is overwhelming.I'm right there with you. No friends - wish I had them - but it never seems to last for me. Obviously I need to take my own advice and do something different!
> I'm looking for a job, but not too aggressively. I had an interview and although I didn't get the job, it went well.You're moving forward, that's the important thing. I think you're doing well to be looking for answers now. It may be hard to understand from your viewpoint, but you do have a lot of time ahead of you to accomplish what you want. Of course most people would say the same for me at 38. I guess at any age you think the same thing, "Look at all those years wasted!" But to keep trying is better than giving up, right? Otherwise, in ten years I'll be 48 and STILL in the same place! God I hope this makes sense, I need some caffeine.
-T
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