Posted by Kath on October 18, 2008, at 20:24:20
In reply to I need support, posted by Angela2 on October 18, 2008, at 12:10:55
~ ~ First of all, thanks for asking right out for support. You're a good example for us all.~ ~
> I'm trying to make my life right. I feel lonely right now and often. I volunteer at a local charity. I feel like people there (my supervisors) treat me like I am a kid. I'm 25. I am better than just doing easy clerical tasks. I think I want to help people somehow. And use my brain, lol.
~ ~ ~ Angela, I see you as one of the people here who is doing REALLY good, hard work at going forward in a strong, positive way with their life. My daughter always looked young for her age & she found it very hard, as she was often condescended to. For what it's worth, there will probably be a time in your life when you appreciate looking younger than you are - I know that doesn't help now though. Maybe you can think about mentioning to them, once you've been there a bit longer maybe, - perhaps asking them if there are additional ways in which you can become involved. At least you're getting 'mileage' under your belt - getting some experience in volunteering. At some point you can look into other volunteering opportunities. I once did volunteering at a school for regular kids who had emotional problems. I helped one boy with reading....I found out that he was really interested in "Monster Trucks" so I would buy him a Monster Truck magazine & we'd go through & read it etc. It was very very rewarding. The other kid was 13 & was obsessed with Pokemon. He was the first kid I volunteered for & I sort of didn't know how to shift him in a new direction, which is what they'd hoped I would do. I realize now that I might have done a number of things, but I didn't really know how...mostly I let him show me things about Pokemon stuff. He eventually invited me to his Bar Mitzvah (sp?). I felt pretty honoured :-) So it's good that you know what you'd like. It might just take a little time. (I had no special training or anything when I applied for that volunteer job. The 'Region' has a Volunteer Bureau & one can look at the listed jobs & see what seems to be a 'fit'. ~ ~ ~
> I don't have friends right now. I'm trying to keep in mind that I will be doing some things that are social next week. But my frustration and wanting intimacy and friendship NOW is overwhelming.
~ ~ ~ I can relate, even though I'm happily married & have friends. My lonely time this past week was really hard. It must be especially hard - didn't you say a friend of yours keeps cancellig? What day next week? How long do you still have to wait? ~ ~ ~
> I'm looking for a job, but not too aggressively. I had an interview and although I didn't get the job, it went well.
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> I have so many things on my mind lol. I am overwhelmed and frustrated. I want to find a new pdoc and counseler.
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> If anyone has any words of encouragement,..please respond. thank you.
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> Angela2~ ~ ~ ~Angela - you rock! You're so open & honest. You really are exceptional & I'm not just saying that. Any news about the craft show?
Big hugs, Kath xoxo
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