Posted by Racer on February 3, 2008, at 13:39:11
In reply to Re: I need help in life » Deneb, posted by MissK on February 3, 2008, at 13:17:40
Deneb, all your friends who are getting married right now are on a different path from yours.
If it helps, think of these as "starter marriages" for them...
Seriously, though -- none of what you're describing remotely makes you anything like a loser. It doesn't make you all that different from most of the world, even. The people who made it straight through college often had something I don't think you've ever had: the support structure that allows them to succeed in getting straight through college. From what you've posted over the years, the phrase "support structure" doesn't come to my mind...
Whatever you do, learn not to see today as an absolute. Today is nothing more than today -- it's not a sign of what tomorrow will be. You can learn the skills of independent living, even while you're living at home. Ask your mother to help you learn to cook. Buy a really good cookbook -- "Fannie Farmer" is my favorite, my mother prefers "The Joy Of Cooking," -- and make a few recipes from it. Cooking is often fun, and the results are often even better. Pay some of your own bills. Find a driving school and take lessons -- or don't worry about it.
About driving: I grew up in San Francisco, a city with a fairly great bus system. I never needed to drive, there was never any parking anyway, so I didn't learn until I moved away from the City -- I was in my late twenties, and was terrified. The first time I drove faster than 30 miles per hour, I had to pull over to the side of the road and cry. (The teacher was very nice about it.) My father never drove a car in his life. Neither did his brother. Their father may never even have ridden in an automobile!
That's actually another good lesson for you -- if you look around you, you may find that you're comparing yourself only to one homogeneous group. If you really look around, you may find that you're a heck of a lot more successful than you think.
Maybe you should consider using some of your money to hire a cheerleader to follow you around and boost you up? ;-)
I wish you well, bright star.
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