Posted by ClearSkies on January 7, 2008, at 7:43:25
In reply to I REALLY need your help...almost suicidal (**trigg, posted by Jay_BrAvEsT_FaCe on January 6, 2008, at 20:52:20
((((Jay)))) Hope you'll take a hug.
My best and gently offered advice is to stop looking for your mate. Accept your life today for what it is, because wanting what it isn't is what is making you so unhappy. Wanting what we don't have is not always a good and driving force for "improvement" or "advancement" - sometimes, it's a force for madness and depression.
I am going to tell you about a book that has changed my way of thinking about life and what it deals me, Jay. I actually read it several years ago, but it's only been in the last couple of months that it started to resonate with me. It's not a cure-all or the answer to all our problems, but it gave me reason to stop my own anxious thinking about the areas of my life that I was so very unhappy about. It's called "Loving What Is" and you can probably find it at Chapters or Indigo up there. It's worth a ponder.
Thanks for reaching out to us, Jay. And there is reason for hope for you, and it already lies within you! Seeing yourself for the great qualities you possess and accepting that those qualities are ENOUGH - that's the secret that's eluding you.
Know that we care, Jay. Know that you're good enough the way you are, and don't actually need somebody else in your life to validate those qualities.
ClearSkies
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