Posted by zenhussy on April 5, 2007, at 13:22:26
In reply to Re: A worrying day as per previous post » scratchpad, posted by Kath on April 4, 2007, at 21:02:37
>>> My son is a BIG challenge for me in my "co-dependency" sobriety!!!!!<<<
but you are doing it! recognize your tiny victories daily.>>> I went to CoDependents Anonymous for almost 4 years then the group stopped holding meetings. it was extremely helpful & while I haven't read that book, I certainly have heard of Melody Beattie & love her book of daily readings - "Language of Letting Go".<<<
sounds like seeking out some support of this nature again would be good at this time.
>>> My son & I have a meeting with his case worker tomorrow. I want to set some boundaries in place (that I need to keep mentally healthy). I want to be 'there for him' as a support person, but not feeling like I have to be there for him right when he calls. I tend to put my life on hold & feel really mean if, for example he calls & says "I'm feeling really down & wondered if you wanna go for a coffee Mom". YIKES - it's hard to say no to THAT one!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel mean, like I'm failing him etc. So I want to discuss that whole issue tomorrow.<<<
he's so lucky to have you as his mother. that you're going to his caseworker appt with him and involved but also wise enough to recognize "I need to keep mentally healthy". these are familiar waters to you it sounds like and you're stronger each time as you know more than you did the previous go round.
as many big books say...one day at a time. breathe. and show yourself some compassion during this time of supporting another while not ignoring your own needs.
he's very blessed to have such a smart ma who can stick to her guns. sending you strength Kath.
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