Posted by Tate_ne on November 1, 2006, at 14:34:49
In reply to Re: My therapist doesn't believe in transference.. » Tate_ne, posted by Dinah on November 1, 2006, at 9:07:10
But it's hard for me to trust someone...it took us almost 3 months to form a decent relationship.
I don't want to not see her. The month we took off from each other was so hard...i don't think i can take MONTHS...
I know what i can do...i can try hard to focus on goals. Oh gah....now that i think about it...I ruined everything. She probably wants me to go away now...instead of focusing on goals. I should've focused when she told me to...I hope she didn't think i was complaining and acting like a spoiled brat when i was talking to her about random things. Because she's CBT, that's probably what she was thinking, "Shut up already." Gah...i screwed up.
She so fricken beautiful though....and non conventional, even with her mistakes and vulnerabilities. I wish she would just tell me she's married.
> I think your therapist has given you a good suggestion and you ought to seriously consider it. She just might not feel that she has been trained to do therapy that is based on the therapeutic relationship. Not all therapists are.
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> PhD's aren't the most important thing. A good fit and a therapist who knows how to help you in the ways that you need help are the most important thing.
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> And I rather suspect that your therapist kept those things in mind when making a recommendation. After all, she's had time to get to know you and I'm sure she wants what's best for you.
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> Feelings are feelings. They just are. They aren't right or wrong or good or bad. The therapist that was recommended to you might just be the right person to help you sort out those feelings.
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> Nothing truly horrible has happened to me in my life. I just have a finely wired nervous system. Therapy and meds can be enormously helpful.
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