Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 12, 2006, at 16:54:06
In reply to Re: 1st time in years *trigger* » deirdrehbrt, posted by 10derHeart on February 12, 2006, at 15:09:21
10derHeart,
You're right, I know. The tendency is to blame ourselves. I think alot of that is enculturated. More so for women. When a woman is hurt by a man, one question that they are almost always likely to hear is: "What did you do to provoke him?"
It s*cks.
For a time, until I had my first meltdown, I was a r*pe crisis counselor. I also know first-hand what can become of someone who was seriously hurt by another. It's a cruel world and it gets away with blaming the survivor.
The real truth though, as St. Augustine so wisely put it is that there was only one sinner. People need to hear that. It takes hearing it many times before people can effectively counter what has been so deeply ingrained into thier consciousness, but it can happen.
That's precicely what therapy helps to get across. It isn't your fault. Just like Robin Williams kept saying in "Good Will Hunting". It's not your fault.
It's not your fault.
It's not your fault.Blessings,
--Dee
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