Posted by spriggy on September 17, 2005, at 15:56:44
Disclaimer: The views expressed by Spriggy do not represent the views of other Christians or minister's wives.. ROFL
I hesitate to even share this because I'm afraid of how these type of things portray Christians. But in reality, even though I am a Christian, there is so much hypocrisy and judgemental attitudes from the Christian community, that I, myself, understand why some have such a sour taste.My husband was a pastor at a church for 5 years- we started as Youth minister's and moved on later to adult/Associate ministry.
The music leader of the church, I'll call her Mrs. "J", became a friend to me (or so I thought). We worked together in Women's Ministries, she claimed to love me, be like a "mom" to me, etc..
When we got a new senior pastor (head pastor) at the church, the entire church turned inside out. This man came in and had no desire or compassion for the people in his care. He came to this church because it's a big church in the community and has a "name." I believe with all my heart this was just his way of getting a name for himself. He constantly focused on "tithes" and practically begged/swindled our congregation for as much money as he could get out of them. He even said once to us (staff), " just think guys, the more people we can bring in, the more money we can bring in."
He never showed any care or concern for the needs of the people-- just concerns for their pocket books.
My husband eventually could not participate or support this stuff anymore. He had to stand up and say, "This is wrong! This is not a business, it's a church."
Because he did that, he was labeled a "troublemaker" and had to leave his position.
Since we have left (in May), over 100 people have left- not because of "us" but because they also saw what was really going on.
Okay, I digress.
I said all that to say, today one of the former church member's called to tell me that mrs. "J", the music minister, is going around reminding people that *I* am "crazy and mentally disturbed" in her attempt to discredit my husband and the stand he made.
I just felt like this was such a low blow. Especially from someone that claimed to have loved me at one time. She is telling people I had to be *put* in the mental ward (which isn't true, I voluntarily went because of akathasia due to Lexapro). She's also reminding people that I have a family history of "crazy" (actually, bipolar and my doctor insists that bp is not "crazy").
And forgive me for saying this (because I know this is not exactly nice or Christian like) but I need to rant a little...
Even if I *am* crazy... Crazy is not a choice, however being a B*tch is.
There.. I feel better now.
Thanks for listening.
poster:spriggy
thread:556017
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