Posted by crushedout on July 15, 2005, at 14:52:06
In reply to Re: I actually really, really, really want some love, posted by crazy teresa on July 15, 2005, at 14:44:42
I think my mom *was* pretty mothering, although she had deep flaws as a mother. But she was very snuggly with me, physically affectionate (even gave me a lot of backrubs, etc.) -- and that's what I crave more than anything. Physical closeness to a mother figure, but not one like my *own* mother at all, mind you. The mother figures I'm attracted to now are notably distinct from my mother.But I do often wonder why why why me? I mean, since I got a decent amount of love as a kid, why am I so desperate for more motherlove as an adult, when no one seems willing or able to give it to me?
Lots of kids are neglected and I can totally understand why they would have this problem. I guess I must have been deprived, too, in some way. Or is this a universal longing?
I drove my T crazy with these questions yesterday. Actually, she didn't mind them. She just didn't have any answers for me. And we only had 30 seconds left in the session. These are not the kinds of philosophical questions one can wrap up in 30 seconds. lol.
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