Posted by spoc on May 30, 2004, at 10:03:48
In reply to Re: i made up 'psychoBabblemania', now no message, posted by lil' jimi on May 30, 2004, at 1:27:13
Too weird! I also have never had that happen before! Obviously a system problem right now. It happened when clicking on "Go to form" from your first message here, but not from the second. Then, I went back to your first message to experiment some more, and from the few times I tested it, it looked like there might be some correlation to opting to carry over the person's text into the reply box. The times I did that were the times I would get no box. If I left it at "Your message only," it didn't seem to happen. Obviously, either way, this ain't how it's supposed to be!
But at least for now, if indeed carrying text over is a factor, people can not do so and then copy and paste from the post they're responding to that displays below the reply box. Or -- as you noticed, just clicking on a different message to "launch off of" also seemed to work for me. But wow, I may not get to edit this huh? Eeek, I am the typo master, and always need much editing! So let me express my horror in advance should I end up having to submit this all mangled. The obsessive compulsive in me sez, copy your reply and just keep "Go(ing) back" and starting a new form to carry out any editing, but that's a good example of unnecessary steps I take that give me a headache! <----- <hee hee, that is what I ended up doing! Not hard, cuz it was loaded in my mouse and I only had to click it into the fresh box>
I do really hope, however, the site is never capable of posting our responses with no review/confirm step appearing at all! That wouldn't be fun. Well, for anyone wanting to be uncivil without being held accountable until it was fixed, I guess it could be fun! Ok ok enough, me and my tangents over the silliest or most boring things! Ya know it's funny though, when I saw your "NM" last night I thought what you were saying, in response to me having boasted about "Search options and examples," was that you had invented psychoBabblemania as well as the "NM" posting option!
Anyway! Of course we are cool, jimi, I know you're a good guy and nothing you ever say would ever be meant with less than good and considerate intentions, towards anyone. That's the kind of bottom line I try to look it in general these days, unlike when I was younger, and would only go by the end result of how *I* felt. Because I do happen to be pretty self-conscious, and easily mortified, thinking something has reflected on me like a beacon in a not-good way when in reality it is usually something no one even gave a second thought to. I have this need to always clarify what I'm really like, even when it doesn't matter.
Like if someone had it in their head for some reason that my favorite color is burgundy; or that I eat a lot of red meat; or that the only thing that takes me an ungodly amount of time to do is get gussied up to go out (when in reality, *everything* takes me an ungodly amount of time, as I am OCD); it will bug me and each time it surfaces I will have this compulsion to make sure what I really meant/am is understood... Even when what was being expressed was acceptance, or agreement, or a compliment on the thing I think they have gotten mixed up. Well those aren't good examples but good ones are escaping me at the moment.
Anyway, here, that compulsion was making me wish you could see clips of my real life, wherein I never play the s*x or innuendo card at all, and am pretty much known to be impervious to having it played on me as well. I don't want to risk attracting anyone based on anything other than substance, and that kind of discourse pattern also bores me in real life. Actually it is one of the things I am proud of on the social level, because even here in the cut-throat singles scene of a big city, I manage to be witty and non-prudish enough without those things, and it's worked in my favor. So this situation was especially ironic.
But see, why would I need a stranger to know that, why do I assume the worst in the first place, why do I feel like I need to explain and justify myself all the time? Those are the keys to one of my biggest issues actually.
(In the midst of my "clarifying" an event or misconception, which I will be seeing as a character issue, I will often be told to "RELAX" and that I am making too big a deal out of something; which for someone wound up like a toy poodle at the moment, only tends to exacerbate it...)
So I was dismayed to think that someone may have gathered that 'flirting' or making innuendo was my natural style, even if it didn't matter at all to them. It was just so completely the "luck of the draw"/random/isolated/tongue in cheek for me to have taken that angle, and wouldn't have persisted, that I had to laugh ironically to myself that I had managed to come off so strongly to the other extreme that a warning, just to be safe, and kinda repeated/rephrased a few times, appeared to be in order.
Then of course I worried that maybe I did sound genuinely crass and pornographic, here before the whole world. It was so like my typical "luck" that this would crop up with the first poster I spoke to that way, outside the bubble of KK and Kid.
BUT see, I know that you would have no way of knowing that, and I know you mean only the best, and I know as anyone else can by reading this far that it is me who has that aforementioned problem with thinking about things too much and noticing things that most people probably never notice.
Whew! I thought maybe I had pulled off seeming casual about it all in my last reference, but you are obviously a very perceptive man, and I thank you for caring enough to ask and even thinking of asking. I hope I haven't further embarrassed myself here! My self-consciousness in general is something I need to work on, because often after posting something I have thought, OH MY HEAVENS!!!! How could I have let that all hang out, how exquisitely humiliating!!! But then when I ask myself rationally if whatever it was was an extreme thing to tell about oneself in comparison to other things I see people telling about themselves all around me here, I have to answer that I am being silly. But I do feel a physical sense of fear and remorse many times after clicking "submit." I have this idea that I am destined to be misunderstood, everywhere, for some reason!
Good grief, ok just let me be the one to say it: "RELAX, spoc!" All is very well because I know it is me; and because I know that everyone has every right to be comfortable and uncomfortable with the things they are, so they can't be wrong; and you were only speaking from your heart; and you are a good guy. Thanks again for following up jimi! :- D
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