Posted by spoc on May 13, 2004, at 22:35:02
In reply to Re: realizations / Arg!!!!, posted by TexasChic on May 13, 2004, at 10:42:54
Yeah, I hear you on knowing the 'right' way to look at things but in the gut still feeling the sensitivity at times.
I can see how that situation could make you feel, but the flip side sounds pretty logical too so maybe it wasn't personal? Since one friend was "due" a housewarming gift and the other parties were the girl herself and her boyfriend... Now, if she had come back and publicly handed out mementoes to only select people present, THAT would clearly be tactless, but as it is, unless you know better it looks to me like it could be innocent. So while the thoughtfulness of a token gift would have been better, at least there doesn't appear to have been any excluding or "favoritism" going on...
I know this is just one instance of a larger thing, but in this case sounds like it may be safe to assume it meant nothing...? ;- )
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