Posted by spoc on May 12, 2004, at 12:48:21
In reply to Re: I didn't take it as being my fault, posted by TexasChic on May 12, 2004, at 11:34:32
Very good point Tex (sorry, is that ok? From over here in the Midwest it sounds neat anyway!), about situational aspects of what can otherwise appear to be general "personality traits." Sometimes something that is occurring in one area of our lives can slant how we feel and react in other seemingly similar -- or broad -- areas. Of course, either way, it's gonna be important to find our way out of that; and also to be able to see and admit when what's going on really *isn't* as "simple" as that. In other words no matter which it is, of course we want to commit to finding the best way to improve it, but sometimes it is warranted to give ourselves and our makeup the benefit of the doubt.
But your words are helpful to remember lest one write themselves off as a "bad person" prematurely and inaccurately. I was just commenting elsewhere about some realizations I had recently about a situational influence; that was ending up with me seeming to feel, perceive and address some things in ways that are actually pretty uncharacteristic for me. It helped, towards both easing my own mind and being more able/likely to start isolating and working on the *actual* root situation. ;- )
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