Posted by Tina33 on May 10, 2004, at 16:12:22
In reply to Re: My life theme... Tina33, posted by TexasChic on May 10, 2004, at 16:02:09
Thank you Texas chic...
What you wrote brought something to my attention. Perhaps it is the "over doing to please" that we do, is exactly what creates "high expectations" in our minds. Maybe we should do until we stop at "normal" non-exhausting comfort level. This way, we don't have high expectations and thus less likely to be disappointed!!!
And maybe, just maybe, our over doing to please, makes people feel choiked and obligated without their ability or knowledge on how to give back, so they run away. In other words, our clinginess that is displayed in the form of over giving/doing is the exact same thing that drives people away and makes their brain go "Oh! Why is this person subconsciously trying to keep me around, then there must be a reason that I should run away and save my skin".
Thanks for your reply to my post. Your answer mirrored back to me the solution. God bless.
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