Posted by Tootercat on April 26, 2004, at 15:39:16
In reply to Re: My friend's annoying boyfriend rainyday, posted by TexasChic on April 26, 2004, at 15:09:54
Tex,
I have a couple of thoughts:
1. Don't sacrifice your standards in order to have a "friend" or "friends". That is your responsibility to yourself.
2. Your friend is responsible for taking care of herself. If she "chooses" to LET her boyfriend dictate (and may I be so crude as to say "dick"tate) how her time is spent that is her decision. Most female friendships are put to the test when a man becomes involved. Men are not the only creatures with hormonal drives.
3. It sounds like you need to establish some healthy boundaries without making it sound like whining or threatening. Explain to her that it makes you uncomfortable when they start making out in front of you (especially when he is an uninvited guest)(disrespect to you) or when he treats her with disrespect by not allowing her to be an individual (or whatever). Simply state that you will leave wherever it is that you are should those things occur.Don't know if this sounds feasible but that's my take. I wish you well.
Hugs, Toots
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