Posted by LynneDa on April 13, 2004, at 15:52:02
In reply to Re: married, posted by Gator on April 13, 2004, at 15:49:02
Hey Gator - I forgot that was your situation when you first started posting . . . and that it had a happy ending! That is so wonderful!! Out of the worst of circumstances can come the best of outcomes. I'm so happy to hear the 2 of you (& you on your own) are doing so well :-)
~ Lynne
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> I understand the "losing yourself" in a relationship. I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years, we've been together for 16 years. Over the years I really became dependent on him for alot of things and ended up losing who I actually was and he of course got used to all the power he was getting from me. I wanted me back again and talked to my Dr. and he put me on Lexapro. Slowly I became more confident and independent and my husband didn't like that he didn't have the same power over me. In December it all came to a head, he was drunk and thought he could tell me what to do and ended up arrested. The judge said the we could have no contact with each other for a month. I had to take care of the house and my 3 kids all by myself over the holidays. Talk about being depressed. But I made it through, my kids a pretty good Christmas and I found out that I can do anything that I set out to do. We have been back together since January 5th and it was a lesson for him too. He now realizes that I'm not the dumb needy blond that he thought I was and that our relationship was worth saving. We are doing great now and both of us are individual persons that are happily married.
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> Look at me...I hardly ever post and here I am babbling ...Sorry.
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> I upped to 15 mgs 2 weeks ago and feel really good. My Dr. said that I can go to 20mgs when I ready....I may stay at 15 for awhile.
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> Thanks for listening.
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> Gator
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