Posted by LynneDa on April 13, 2004, at 13:58:10
In reply to Re: married » LynneDa, posted by KathrynLex on April 13, 2004, at 13:21:21
She is pretty wise! It took me A LOT of years, relationships and therapy to work that habit out of my system, but I think I've pretty well got it kicked. Having mental instabilities helped cuz I was too emotionally exhausted to twist myself in knots for someone else! It was actually a relief :-)
~ Lynne
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The best advice my Mom ever gave me was to work on making myself the best me I could be vs. making myself into something I think a guy would want.
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> Hi Lynne,
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> That's such great advice. I don't know why women have the habit of trying to change themselves for men, but they do. (I hate to admit I'm guilty of doing it! I have since gotten out of the habit.)
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> It's too exhausting to try and be something for someone else...and if you do change to meet the needs of another person you discover that your own needs aren't being met. It makes for a very unhappy and exhausting relationship.
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> Your mother was a wise woman.
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> K.
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